Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2008, at 12:44:51
In reply to Object Permanence -- Daisy and whoever else, posted by TherapyGirl on November 6, 2008, at 20:44:19
Of course, at least in my opinion, it isn't *entirely* about object permanence. She's leaving you to go retire, and the fact that she's leaving the area is an additional pounding in of the fact that she's left you and moved on with her life in a tangible fashion.
It's wonderful if she keeps you in her heart, and you keep her in yours. Very wonderful. But gone is gone, and that part needs to be dealt with at all.
At least that's how I'd see it if I were you. I think I'd be having some difficulty accepting that her no longer being a therapist meant she was no longer in my life. It would always seem to me that there was still some hope of seeing her now and again. The fact that she was moving would mean a lot of that being driven home. Like a stake through the heart after you've already been shot.
It *does* matter on some level that not only is she no longer your therapist but she's no longer even in town.
Hmmmm... Perhaps some of my own feelings are peeking through here.
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