Posted by antigua3 on September 11, 2008, at 11:08:18
In reply to How do you 'depend' on your T? ????, posted by Looney Tunes on September 8, 2008, at 21:12:05
I think I kind of follow Racer's approach. I am "appropriately" dependent most of the time, and give my T a wide berth on my being dependent when she can't fill the need. It was a struggle because I wanted to be fully dependent on her, but the inevitable events of life, and her own personality and defects (I say that kindly) were hard lessons to learn.
I don't like to depend on anyone, but that's true of so many of us. But I can depend on my T for what I know she can give me, and no longer wish for what I can't have. Actually, it's a big issue in my therapy with her because my maternal transference keeps me from fully delving into my mother issues. I want to protect my T just like I protected my mother, but the truth is that I need to get beyond that and deal w/so many other things.
So, yes, I believe being dependent on a T is important, and necessary, because if you face it and deal w/it, you'll learn so much about yourself. Now if I could just follow my own advice...
antigua
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