Posted by muffled on December 25, 2007, at 23:10:17
In reply to Re: Crisis lines etc » MidnightBlue, posted by Maxime on December 25, 2007, at 23:00:02
I dunno why cutting freaks some people out so much.
Initially it freaked my T some. Not really freaked her, but she hated it, she didn't REALLY understand it.
So I got over being as mute as I usu am, and we discussed it, and she came round to MY way of thinking more.
That cutting is not "bad". It works. Its a lifesaver. Its not great, but yes, it does work.
And once I accepted it more, and gave myself permission to use it as a tool for safety when absolutely needed, it took alot of stress of it off me. Cuz the cutting helped, but ultimately the guilt and shame added to my stress in the end.
So once I gave myself permission, and accepted it was necessary at that time until I found better ways that actually WORKED.
Well that took away alot of the shame and guilt.
It reduced my stress level.
And oddly enuf....
I cut LESS, and less badly.
I would stop sooner.
I was aware of its function as a tool, and as soon as I knew I was feeling a bit better I'd stop, knowing I'd done enuf.
And there would be pride and releife that I'd stopped sooner, with less damage.
I'd remind myself, that I could have done SO much more damage. But I didn't.
This cutting CAN be overcome, with time.
Meantime, don't beat yourself up over it OK?
Also, I bet your family ultimately wants whats safest for you. If thats hosp, then so be it.
Mebbe you could get into DBT faster thru hosp?
I dunno.
Borderline is hard.
I dunno that I fit the criteria, but just reading the stuff bout it sounds SO hard.
BUT it IS treatable. Very successfully from what I gather. Just takes time.
Take good care,
M
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