Posted by DAisym on November 28, 2007, at 19:04:51
In reply to Re: How do...? (small abuse trigger) » sunnydays, posted by Muffled on November 28, 2007, at 18:51:51
A good therapist will have their own supports and will have learned how to be empathetic without getting emeshed. You have a good therapist. It helps to remember this worry when they take vacation - it is a good way to remind yourself why they need to and how important it is.
I know it is still worrisome - I worry about this all the time. I made my therapist promise to tell me if he needs a break from the stories, or sadness or anger or whatever. I also think about myself when I'm trying to help someone. I might really want to help and I care and all of that - but it isn't my pain or struggle so it doesn't effect me the same way. I like "along side" - I think that is a great description.
And I agree with Muffy - I'm sure your therapist wants you to be honest about all your feelings. Of course your mom's stuff gets in the way - isn't that partly why you are in therapy? I've actually told my therapist that there are times I'm afraid of him - when I feel young and small I worry that I will "turn him into" some kind of abuser - either sexually or verbally. He is very reassuring and never gets offended by these kinds of worries or fears.
I'm glad you asked him to call you back. I hope he gets the message tonight.
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