Posted by Deputy 10derHeart on October 25, 2007, at 15:47:37 [reposted on October 25, 2007, at 21:35:55 | original URL]
In reply to Re: I've fallen in love with my psychiatrist, posted by I need a hug on October 25, 2007, at 1:27:27
>....your rude comment
I recognize that you may be upset about what's been written in another post, but please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.In order to post on this site, and with a goal of maintaining as much of a harmonious and supportive environment as possible, Dr. Bob asks that we follow the civility guidelines he's put forth, which do include remaining civil when we may be feeling provoked. ("two wrongs don't make a right"). You can a read a detailed description in the FAQs:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
In this case, describing another poster's comments as "rude" is considered uncivil, thus my warning. Following Babble's civility rules can be a little tricky, but with some practice it does become more natural. When you do choose to reply, it seems to work best in these situations to stick to "I" statements, about how you personally feel, rather than characterizing the behavior or words of others. [Ex: "I feel that your comments were rude," would not be civil, as it says essentially the same thing, but, "I felt hurt when I read your response," would be fine.]
I regret that your first experience posting here was a bit bumpy. You're right - it did take courage! I hope you'll stay - there are wonderful people here and your issue is one many posters in therapy can empathize with, believe me.
If you wish to discuss this administrative action, the proper place is the Administration Board. Just change the board at the top of the "Enter Your Post" screen. Any responses to this post should, of course, themselves be civil.
Deputy decisions are subject to review and reversal by Dr. Bob. If you wish to contact him directly, his email is at the bottom of each screen.
Respectfully,
-- 10derHeart, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
poster:Deputy 10derHeart
thread:791021
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20071022/msgs/791445.html