Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 20, 2007, at 12:37:01
In reply to Re: Lonely and needing a cure, posted by muffled on August 19, 2007, at 22:52:30
Is it maybe a good thing that you can trust T enough to feel such deep feelings? I know it's painful, but your heart is whole and well enough to accept his caring.
Is it safer than real life? At least in real life you may actually get to find out whether love can prosper in a relationship. At least in real life there is the possibility of fulfilling the fantasies.
"working through it" sounds terrifying. I think I probably guard my heart to avoid all of this. But I worry about developing those feelings. What if it happens to me with my male T. I am scared to death of any kind of emotional intimacy. Boundaries I am very happy to keep.
I'm talking way too much about myself. I don't know what the cure is. Maybe the cure for being hurt is forgiveness. Maybe the cure for hate is compassion (even self-hate). Time to hit the self-help books again? I have a whole rack of psychology and buddhism books that I skimmed once and decided that the implications were too much to handle at the time. Thinking- oh, I'll deal with this later. Scarlet O'Hara-style. Of course, things didn't end up so well for her. Another parable of putting off emotional intimacy...
-Ll
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