Posted by annierose on November 15, 2006, at 6:56:15
In reply to Re: Hi, Daisy -- How's it going? » TherapyGirl, posted by Daisym on November 15, 2006, at 0:51:54
The holiday discussion had to be so hard. Having to share something like that is never easy, and it's the first time. I imagine, although I have no idea, it may get easier with each holiday. Maybe not. Do you think what you have decided is fair?
Hearing in his voice the "I've moved on, you are no big deal to me anymore" in his voice is hurtful. Remember, he puts on that voice to protect himself from the truth. No matter how much we needed to distance ourselves from our spouses, there is probably a special part reserved for our husbands, they are afterall, the father of our children. He feels the same. He misses you too.
I'm glad you went to that session tonight. I don't think putting a voice to your feelings that were already there could make it worse. Perhaps, it just made it more real - hearing it out loud. So just like verbalizing made it seem more real, journaling would bring about that same realization. Maybe that's the scary/sad part.
I know the mantra well myself. And I add to it, "Breathe, breathe, I'm okay, breathe, deep breath ---" all this yoga self-talk that helps most when I'm in the class.
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