Posted by pegasus on September 18, 2006, at 13:04:42
I have a phone session scheduled with my ex-T on Thursday! I'm quite nervous. I've worked really hard on what I want to talk about. But I can't control what he's going to say, so it could be good or bad. Basically I want to tell him the story of my therapy with him, and ask him to really hear and acknowledge what happened for me when he left so suddenly in the middle of it all. I would ideally want him to say that he's sorry. But I don't think there's much chance of that. But if he at least really hears and validates how hard it was for me, that'll be something. And if he still can't after all this time . . . well then I'll know it isn't ever going to happen.
He's been Mr. Boundary about this. His emails are all about the forms I need to fill out and how much it'll cost, and how he's willing to do it because I've talked about it with my therapist, etc., and how he'd like to know who she is, etc. He even referred to the session as "consulting", as in "I'd be happy to do a phone consult". Let's not imagine that this could be actual therapy, or that we have an actual relationship. There was none of the "it'll be good to talk to you" that I would have loved. I'm going to rename him Mr. Boundaries.
p
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