Posted by llrrrpp on July 22, 2006, at 15:04:46
In reply to setting for therapy or itself therapeutic, posted by pseudoname on July 16, 2006, at 17:22:51
>>But as I've been crawling out of my decades-long depressive dungeon, I'm finding that I undergo therapeutic change by looking to see how much *I* love *others*; I'm surprised to find lots of feeling there sometimes.
Wow- pseudo, this is so true. I knew I was starting to feel better when I actually *felt* love for my husband again. He hadn't changed- if anything, I was so impressed that he took care of me during the rough spots. What depression did to me was diminish my ability to love and feel loved. When I started to feel better- i actually felt like I was falling in love again.
I'm not sure about having strong personal feelings about T. I guess it's important that he's committed to helping me get better. It's important that he cares enough to do his job well. I'm convinced that he's talented and has a lot to offer- if he's motivated enough to offer it to me, that's all I expect. T has appealed to my love for my husband at various points to help get me through the rough patches, so there's still a role for love in therapy, even if it's not client-T love.
a few disorganized thoughts...
-llp.s. throwing you a rope and a nifty led headlamp to help you make your way out of the dungeon :)
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