Posted by alexandra_k on December 3, 2005, at 23:18:19
In reply to Re: Poster's remorse again » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on December 3, 2005, at 22:50:49
> I don't know.
Neither do I. I'm just talking...
> Because from the very beginning, under all the things I didn't like about him, he gave me something that no one else ever did... It seems like magic, but I imagine it's his ability to project calm and peace. Not that he has it himself, he doesn't. It's just how he feels. So open and receptive, but with a solid core that can be relied upon.
Ah. Yes. I do think... I get what you mean. I know you don't really idealise him (I mean, you are well aware of some of his failings etc). And I think... I get what you mean about that feeling.
> I've long said that I prefer my truth not only varnished, but beveled and polished. And I mean that. Challenges have to be pretty darn polite and good natured for me to accept them.
And the bigger the challenge, the more varnished and beveled and polished and pretty darned polite and good natured they need to be. At least... Thats the way it is for me too. I think... Thats true of everybody.
> Which for some reason makes me think of Tamar, who has a better touch with truth than anyone I know. :)
Yeah. I re-read her post and I think I get what you mean.
But I also think... That it is possible to do a bit of both...
And I think... Maybe if you explain to her how you felt in response... Maybe then... She would understand this a bit more. Maybe... Give her (strategic bits) from this thread?
Because it is possible that she can adapt her style.
I think... You should at least give her the opportunity to do that.
But of course you might still find that it doesn't work out.
I think... I get what you mean. I've had some therapists who I felt that way around (sometimes). Guys typically. But then my last female t... Could be wonderfully soothing at times.
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