Posted by happyflower on October 14, 2005, at 21:39:23
In reply to My therapist hurt my feelings, posted by daisym on October 13, 2005, at 20:25:03
Hi Daisy,
I am so sorry I am late in responding. I know how it feels to wanting some physical closeness and yet you can't have it. I didn't get it growing up as a child, and now my DH isn't giving it to me either. Sometimes you just want to be touched and held or hugged.
My T doesn't do hugs either, unless it is at the end of therapy treatment or a little kid or something. He got kinda irrtatated with me a long time ago when I asked him what he would do it I were to fall apart emotionally and start crying. I have never been in therapy before and I wanted to know what they do. He then went on to explain he would make me feel better by his words. Well in a way in kept me from losing it in his presence, maybe I needed to I am not sure, but I will try like h#ll not to fall apart if I know he is just going to look at me. I want a hug too, but it isn't going to happen ever. I admit it has kept me at a distance from him in a personal way, maybe it made me stronger, I am not sure yet. I don't know if anything I am saying helps, but I know what is is like to want to be hugged or held, and to have it withheld. It seems like I want it all the more, if I know I can't get it. :(
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