Posted by rabidreader on July 24, 2005, at 20:06:47
In reply to Re: Woud my ex T remember me? it's been 6 months » daisym, posted by pinkeye on July 24, 2005, at 19:32:41
Pinkeye,
I think it is like Daisy said...something out of the blue will remind him of you. I wouldn't hurt myself more by thinking he has forgotten you. I'm trying to remember this, too, for when my therapist leaves in the next couple of weeks. He's off to get his doctorate, and I think (with a hint of wistfullness, as you wrote of it) that he'll never think of me ever again. But think, Pinkeye, of how many times some little thing will trigger your memory, and somebody comes to mind. It could be anything: a color, a scent. Maybe he'll smell some perfume that reminds him of the one you wore, and your face will come to him.
However, it will never be enough remembering to suit us. I want my T to think of me every day, to miss me, to wish he'd never left. This, I'm afraid, is just not going to be reality, not even a slice of it. I will remember him infinitely more than he'll remember me.
But hopefully--and I think I can say this with truth on my side--in five years, he will be a distant memory. That is what I wish for myself, and for you.
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