Posted by pinkeye on April 28, 2005, at 14:01:11
In reply to Re: Confusing my ex T with my dad? » pinkeye, posted by annierose on April 28, 2005, at 5:08:44
My mom was forced to be helpless by my dad. He was so overpowering, and was a big man and frightened her. She couldn't do anything else other than be like what is she. I am amazed that she even managed to keep herself a warm and loving person and still affectionate towards my dad. And she didn't understand my father, and didn't know how to meet his needs. She just resigned herself to be just affectionate to me and my dad and let the other things taken care of by my dad. My dad was basically a good man at heart, except now I realize he was extremely agitated, and learnt so many things which he didn't know how to make proper sense out of. He didn't know how to integrate all that he learnt and make a good family out of it. Instead he tried to just force all the bits and pieces of his learning onto me and my mom, and that terribly hurt both me and my mom.
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