Posted by pinkeye on April 25, 2005, at 19:17:26
In reply to Re: Mismatched expectations » pinkeye, posted by JenStar on April 25, 2005, at 18:09:26
Thanks JenStar. Actually my therapist had a huge deal of common sense and thankfully he was very literate and exposed to internet and all. That helped a huge deal. If I had gone to any ohter therapist in India, and made confessions about my transference, they would have run away. He handled it as best as anybody in India would have done.
I was reading the book In Session yesterday and I was amazed at the insight the author had. I had gone through almost all of it. It is such a pity that such books are not even available in my country. And they don't have as much access to internet as we have. My therapist has such a bad internet connection, even if he wanted to, he couldn't have replied more to my emails. And I couldn't tell him everything about my parents, because they were pretty much escorting me to his office and were sitting outside waiting for me when I was in ther room with him. And he knew my parents so well. There were all sorts of limitations. And for the most part I was sitting 20000 miles apart and sending him tons of emails. And my culture doesn't permit married women talking so much to other married men. If I had gone to any other therapist in my country, they wouldn't have helped me even a little bit. Thankfully becuase my T was extremely good, I did atleast so well, even if there is some hurt because of my transference which is still unresolved.
I think both my T and I did the best we could do under the given circumstances.
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