Posted by Tamar on April 3, 2005, at 13:44:41
In reply to Would this bother you? Long but Please Read, posted by tryingtobewise on April 2, 2005, at 22:32:55
What a situation! I can see that it would bother you very much!
Did you have the impression that your new T was shocked and distressed because she thought you might be stalker-like? Or do you think she seemed distressed because she was concerned about the effect her move would have on you?
I'm sure she doesn't think you're any kind of stalker. And I'm sure she doesn't want you to take responsiblity for her feelings. I think it would be a good idea to be honest with her about how you feel. You could tell her that, even though you might have given the impression you were fine with it, on reflection you're really not feeling fine about it at all. She should be able to understand that and respond sensitively.
I also wondered whether you've told her about your experiences your former T/boss. If not, I would suggest that the current situation is the perfect opportunity to bring it up. I had the impression from what you wrote that there's some unfinished business there.
I hope things work out OK eventually.
Tamar
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