Posted by pinkeye on February 16, 2005, at 14:49:35
In reply to Re: Okay, but I'm still so ANGRY » pinkeye, posted by Susan47 on February 16, 2005, at 14:22:03
I don't have too much of an answer to you. Maybe you are right and what he did was really wrong. What you are doing now, venting out is probably good for you. You should feel free to do as much of it as you want, here in babble. IT will help you move past it at somepoint.
What you have written about protecting him yourself is possible as well. If we like someone a lot, we tend to overlook their shortcomings, and their mistakes. It is a very common human behaviour - when we love someone, we don't see their shortcomings. It is not a mistake that you did.
I haven't had a bad experience with T myself so I always tend to think very highly of them - I have got hurt - but mostly it has been my own inappropriate expecatations that led me to get hurt and disappointed.. and I always realized it if not immediately, atleast a little later. That helps me come to terms with the hurt. And I am a professional myself, so I know the kind of mistakes that I do in my own profession, so I try not to hold my Ts at a higher standard than what I do myself in my own profession. I know I commit horrible mistakes, I am lazy and not always responsible. I don't read everything taht I should know and I am not uptodate and many times I am just plain irresponsible. So even if they make a mistake, I would most likely dispense it as an inadequacy rather than hold a grudge. That attitude helps me look at life in a better way and it is something I learnt - didn't come naturally.
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