Posted by crushedout on January 18, 2004, at 10:05:53
In reply to i will defend him.... » Karen_kay, posted by dragonfly25 on January 18, 2004, at 9:58:36
but see, that's the problem. as much as i *want* (as much as i think we all want) to be special to our therapists, one thing that i found informative/intriguing about the links joslynn posted is that we're not *supposed* to be special. if we become that to our Ts, they're actually having a problem. they're no longer objective enough.
what do you guys think of this? is it b.s.? is it ok to be special, e.g., to be our T's faves (or one of them)? or is that a sign of trouble?
> hi karen
>
> i acually was SHOCKED when i read your first post and felt like crushedout and joslynn. But...after reading your defense :) i believe that he has a 'special' relationship with you, not in a sexual way but in a close bonded way. he cares about you and you care about him. this isn't always obvious in therapy relationships, when it happens it is great! i've had it and it was a relationship that others couldn't understand or they wanted??? i could and would say just about anything to him, as he would to me. i could take his humor and he could (sometimes) take mine :) of course i would not be open to hearing about his sex life (well maybe, i don't know, it was never an issue) my point is that i think you have a very unique relationship, with a very unique guy, and i think those are hard to find! when you read about what he first said it is rather shocking but then i went back to my relationship and some of the things i was told about etc, would bother people and i personally think he was awsome! so don't worry about it, i don't think he needs defending, you know what he is like and you know if he is helping you. one otehr thing, i think he knew what he was doing when he said it, i believe that he would not have told you that if you didn't have the 'issues' you have adn i don't think he would say that to many other patients. i hope this helped :)
> dragonfly
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