Posted by crushedout on January 14, 2004, at 15:37:37
In reply to Ok Ladies, Listen UP!!!!, posted by Karen_kay on January 14, 2004, at 14:32:04
Oh my goodness, I can't believe he even mentioned the fact that he MASTURBATES to you! (It almost seems like he's crossing I line, actually, but I find it delightful.)
Holy cow. I'm impressed, with you, with him, the whole thing. It's inspiring.
(Why is this only for ladies, though? I'm not a lady. Can I still engage in this conversation? And what about the poor men?)
> All your questions answered, via Karen!
> Does your therapist fantasize about his clients, hmmmm? Well, I had a WONDERFUL session today. I had a nightmare where my therapist told me he was dying. Today we talked about that. He thinks that when he told me he was dying it meant that the illusion of the crush I had on him was dying. Also, the illusion of him being my new father was also dying. So, we are working towards a healthy attachment. Also, he told me it is fine with him to be needy.
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> Now Ladies, the fun part of my session. I said, "Ok, I have a few questions for you, and I want you to be honest. First of all how old are you? I think you could easily be between 26 and 40. Now, what is it?" He said he was 28 and then said no, wait I had a birthday in December so I'm 29. I pointed out that I'm not the only one with a faulty memory. (So, is he a Sagittarius or Capricorn???? Good Grief!!!)
> I then said, "Do you ever fantasize about your clients?" (I was sure to point out that I didn't mean ME specifically) He said, "Uh,, um, er, well, I'm going to answer that only so that you know it is OK to fantasize about whoever you choose. Yes, I do fantasize about my clients sometimes when I masturbate, as well as other people that I've met or been with." He then went on to ask if that's what I meant by the question and about "fantasizing." It didn't lead to a long discussion of any sort, thank god!
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> I also talked about how his personal feelings came into play and he said, "Well sometimes when a client or you walk in and look pretty I may think it, but then I dismiss the thought and get on with therapy. You're beautiful (he's sweet isn't he?? :) and I'm cute but it doesn't affect therapy. Sometimes when you become resistant I'm frustrated because the approach I'm using isn't working, but I realize that you're resistant because you don't want to "feel" the things that make you anxious. So, I have to use a different approach. I'm not frustrated with you, I'm frustrated that the approach isn't working."
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> It was a wonderful session. He actually told me to be needy and to call him more often. I told him what a wonderful job he's doing and that if I didn't think he was doing a great job, I wouldn't give him such a hard time.
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> One note though, I was eating cashews, as I didn't have time for lunch and I PICKED MY TEETH. I pointed it out, apologized and put them away. He said he didn't even notice because he was busy talking. UGH! I'm so rude. Strike one for Karen... *Hiding my head in shame... Will you guys forgive me PLEASE?????
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