Posted by Karen_kay on December 23, 2003, at 10:54:14
In reply to Re: Intelligence, posted by TF on December 23, 2003, at 8:44:05
> The funny thing is that this person who set me off doesn't really know big words and how to use them... He just throws out these simple, worthless philosophical sentiments and random, common knowledge in an attempt to make us feel dumb, or imply that we don't know what he's talking about. He points to movies we're watching and says, 'You realise that's not a true story, don't you?'. I know I should laugh at that kind of stuff, but I lack the ability to convince him myself that he's an idiot... It's so frustrating. I just don't have the words or organisation of mind to come up with an arguement, and even if I did I'd probably never work up the resources to actually carry on the conversation aloud.
<<<<Ok, I hear what you're saying now. If your purpose is to make him feel stupid try something like this.... Next time he says, "You know this isn't a true story don't you?" try being sarcastic. Say, "Really? I didn't quite catch that. I thought I'd read something similar to this in the evening paper." If he continues either sit there and nod your head with a stupid grin on your face (which he should pick up on as being very sarcastic, or he'll just think you're very interested). And when he quits talking just say, "Oh no, please enlighten me. Tell me more from your fountain of knowledge." He'll either get so annoyed he'll walk away, or he'll be happy to have a captive audience. You know the meaning and that's all that's important!
> Kalamantianos- Ironically, I was a very humble person before this mental decay started happening. Now I'm always looking for reasons to think I'm better than others, intellectually, or putting others down in my own mind. It's probably because of all the times I've shown how stupid and out of my mind I am. I'm just trying to compensate.
><<<It is understandable. I went through a tough period with some meds, where I couldn't finish sentences and could barely remember where I lived. Forget humility. You just want to prove to yourself and others that you are intelligent! I know where you are coming from. But, judging by your posts, you are very intelligent. Maybe you are or aren't able to communicate it well verbally. Verbal communication isn't the whole story. And your close friends know it. That's all that matters. And you know it as well..
> It's really hard to laugh at yourself when everyone else is doing the same. I think the natural reaction is to go against the grain as far as that's concerned. If people don't think highly of me, I'm not content to be humble. That's all there is to it.<<<Why do you assume everyone's laughing at you? Trust me, people laugh at me quite often (and with good reason). I think the greatest lesson one can learn in life is to be able to laugh, especially at your own faults. I know it is frustrating when it comes to your verbal comprehension. Especially if you lose it. But, try it from a different angle. Can you be witty instead?
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