Posted by Karen_kay on December 17, 2003, at 16:44:13
In reply to Re: Therapy gripe, posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 17, 2003, at 15:30:48
Just plain yuck! Picking his teeth? Did your crush subside for a bit when he did that? Imagine him picking his teeth in bed, he he! Did he eat the finished product? That could be the worst case scenario. Or look at it? Now, that would be bad manners! I'm curious as to what he did after he picked his teeth......
Why not tell him that you are not ready to move on. I think that when you say "That makes sense" he is giving you some time to think about it. Try brigning it up at your next session. Or just say "Wait a minute. I've been dealing with this for _ years. You're not going to solve it in 5 minutes. Now, can we at least take an extra 5 minutes to discuss this further, or will this interupt you from picking your teeth? I assure you, you can pick your teeth and listen to me talk aobut this at the same time." (Or feel free to substitute your own words. Just let him know that you aren't convinced that you are completely "over" the issue)
To get over the small talk, why not walk in and just blurt out what you have to say. Don't say "Hi, how are you" or anything like that. If he asks questions, tell him that you don't like the small talk and you are comfortable enough with him to dive right in to the real stuff. I think that most therapists and clients like the small talk because it helps to relax the client. Kinda gets you into the whole "role"
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