Posted by Elle2021 on November 24, 2003, at 3:23:27
In reply to Re: Another question » Elle2021, posted by Dinah on November 24, 2003, at 0:53:32
> Elle, by the way. I see some shades of grey thinking here on the board. You don't tend to categorize people as all bad or all good, and you are perfectly capable of disagreeing with someone while also showing them that you hold them in good regard.
That is the best thing someone has told me in a long time regarding my bpd! To be completely honest, this board has really been a help in making me understand the feelings of others without completely seeing them as "all wrong" or "all bad." I am coming to realize that even if I don't agree with someone on one thing, they might still have really good info for me and be nice. For instance, a certain poster(who I will not center out cause he was kind enough not to do it to me) and I have disagreed on something on the Administration board, yet I still find this person very supportive and caring. I guess sometimes it takes other people to point out your progress before you realize it! Thanks!! :)
Yes, an ex-boyfriend of mine also mentioned that I do better expressing feelings on paper than out loud. I can't stand to see people's facial expressions when I tell them personal thoughts and feelings. I always feel like they are going to think I'm stupid or crazy for feeling a certain way. That method of thinking has prevented me from developing strong friendships. I emailed my pdoc, not about his cancelling my appointments, but about a certain medication that I noticed was helping my OCD. I wish I could do therapy via email, or just be able to send him emails and have him write me back inbetween sessions. I think that would help so much. But, I'm too afraid to ask, he might think that I am asking too much of him. Sometimes I feel like I deserve more from him though...I sure do pay him enough! :) Hehe! Thank you so much for your encouraging words, you don't know how much they helped.
Elle
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