Posted by Still Hurting on August 12, 2003, at 11:38:28
In reply to Re: Transference Crisis » Still Hurting, posted by stebby on August 12, 2003, at 9:17:33
Thanks for your compassion. And I'm happy for you that you found a therapist that can work with you and not against you. Truthfully, I don't think she was experienced in this kind of thing. For her, everytime i would get in her business, she'd tell me that i was crossing professional borders. She kept reminding me that we had a therapeutic relationship and that's it. And if I continued to cross borders that she'll see to it that i get another counselor. What she didn't tell me was that transference is a common thing in client/therapist relationships. She hated me being in her personal business. But my question is, seeing that they went to university for all of this, wouldn't they be better prepared to handle transference when it shows up? Therapists seem to treat us like criminals when transference manifests, wereas they need to anticipate that some of their clients will struggle with seeing them as the ideal lover/friend/parent/etc. So instead of making us feel stupid and embarrassed shouldn't they do just as your therapist is doing,and that is to help us work straight along through it and into self-actualization?
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