Posted by SLS on May 3, 2009, at 6:35:48
In reply to Re: Nardil , how fast increasing from 60 to 90mg ?, posted by tepi on May 2, 2009, at 19:37:39
> > Tepi congrats on the promotion. Great things happen all the time. Love Phillipa
>
> Thanks Phillipa , but to be honest Im not happy with this. I prefer to work in front of a PC
> than to interact with people. I was kind of forced to accept this promotion ( long history )Im always trying to find places where I can be alone and I avoid all contact to people.Even with social anxiety, you might learn to become more comfortable being around people as you become more comfortable (desensitized) in that environment. When my social anxiety was at its worst, I was counseled to do this very thing and work with the public. "I love people, I'm just scared of them." was how I explained myself. So, I took a job as a bank teller, then as a fitness instructor. My depression really wasn't any better, and I was still anxious in recreational social gatherings, but people themselves no longer frightened me. I discovered that a great deal of my anxiety in socialization actually came from being depressed, in that I wasn't interacting with my environment. I still had a tendency to stare into space. I was basically mute. I didn't socialize because I had nothing to say. It was a very uncomfortable feeling. I felt inhibited and passive. No interest, no motivation, no energy. No healthy person would push (punish) themselves to go to a social gathering if they suddenly felt this way.
You might develop an improved level of comfort once you become acclimated to the job and exposed to people. That is my hope for you, anyway. When I first took my job as a car salesman, I wanted to run away the very first day. By the time a year had passed, I became very comfortable to walk up to strangers and begin conversations because I had become comfortable in that environment and had spoken to so many people. It became routine. Still, I had problems in recreational social gatherings. Somehow, I just never felt that I fit in. Of course, the other people felt that I did. They just thought I was a quiet person. I was rarely teased for having nothing to say. You would be surprised at how others see you so differently than you see yourself - in a good way.
- Scott
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