Posted by stargazer on November 18, 2006, at 0:30:56
In reply to Re: docs ...Not openly discussed d/i stigma still? » stargazer, posted by Phillipa on November 17, 2006, at 19:43:33
I don't talk about my "issues" with almost anyone outside of my close personal circle of family and friends and they would be clueless to make a recommendation. I never would ask a friend since I know the stigma exists and can affect you personally and professionally (still need to work). I had mentioned it to a few people in the past in a moment of weakness and it really came back to haunt me. I think its common to ask others for a general doc or a back specialist, but not for a shrink. People don't understand what true depression is and I find they try and minimize it or say they feel the same way, and they try and give you suggestions on what might help. Immediately I knowI shouldn'thave said anything. Keep your mouth shut I say to myself.
You have to be careful, people "mean well" but to me it feels "nosey". So I tell "no one" about my depression...just me, my doc, my dog and my husband with a rare occasional friend or family member I can really trust. Even my family has used it against me in anger.
Probably a little of the depressive paranoia at work but that is how I can go to work and "pretend" things are great, even if they suck some days.
I may just stick with my doc and if I need another doc I'll figure it out then. Tackle one thing at a time. They are doing the vagus nerve stim research up at UCONN so they must be doing something right. For some reason, I think I would trust UCONN over Yale, less elitist, more honest. I was never fond of Ivy league types, in my experience too much hype, not enough substance...SG
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