Posted by Iansf on January 26, 2005, at 20:06:51
In reply to What does everyone do all day long?, posted by Jen2 on January 26, 2005, at 16:58:09
> Hi all,
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> I must say, now that I'm on Effexor, I have never been so without motivation in my life. I'm a graduate student and am having so much trouble getting things done. I guess the anxiety/stress that I used to feel was a motivator to get my work done. Now that it's largely gone, I really don't seem to care. I spend most of my time (when I'm not in class) checking my email or checking these boards, or doing some paid work that I can do from home. ARRGH!
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I think you've hit on a general problem and one reason so many people say antidepressants make them apathetic. If you're used to using anxiety (along with the attendant guilt, worry, shame, etc.) as a motivator, once it's gone you don't a replacement to motivate you. After all, one of the things you've no doubt been striving for through everything you've done is contentment. You just didn't know how to get it. I'm sure there's been a fair amount of wasted energy put into things you thought would make you happy that never did.So if, thanks to a medication, you're now content, what's to strive for? Well, one thing is simply the enjoyment of doing. After you sit around feeling content for awhile and get comfortable with the idea the contentment isn't going to disapear, I think you'll discover the things you actually LIKE to do. And liking to do them will become the motivation for doing them. You'll also find you're more willing to do some things you don't like to do because doing them makes it possible to do more (or get more) of the things you do like -- and because now that you're feeling better, most of those things really aren't so bad as you used to think they were.
So my advice is to give yourself time to adjust. Even if your current lack of motivation leads you to skip some things you really should do for your general welfare, well, so be it. Lots of people fall behind but catch up later. Don't make yourself anxious about not being anxious. You've accomplished something you've wanted. Savor the accomplishment for awhile. The kinder you are to yourself, the quicker motivation will surface on its own.
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