Posted by bob on January 31, 2002, at 12:15:09
In reply to Re: Sex All the Time..., posted by ethan on January 31, 2002, at 4:50:36
> I caught this particular thread, and while I am new to this board I feel compelled to at least mention a perspective that I feel is most appropriate for evaluating sex drive in relation to mood and "normalcy" which appears to be the issue (medication is noted for either contributing or detracting to the drive phenomenon). The perspective is simply this: your sex drive is normal for You whatever it is (this is assuming you are not on medication). When you alter the drive with medication you alter what is "normal" for you, but nobody is categorically "oversexed" no matter what any doctor might try to claim. Sex addiction, or being oversexed is (I believe, and because we're all about our own opinions here I feel it's valid to state this) a cop out by the medical community in acknowledging that some individuals (perhaps Many individuals) feel a need to engage in sexual activity more frequently than is considered socially acceptable by today's puritanical American standards. If you need to masturbate three times a day, then Masturbate Three Times A Day, and Enjoy it for heaven's sake! It need not interfere with other worldly obligations or responsiblilties if you acknowledge this is Normal For You. It is when people pretend that needing sex frequently is somehow ABnormal (or needing sex INfrequently is also ABnormal) that gross misconceptions arise about what is appropriate for any given individual. This becomes even more complicated when a person is engaged in a sexual relationship with a partner whose sex drive does not match his/her own. Suddenly it becomes a question about what is "Normal" (by ridiculous societical and even cultural standards) instead of what are a person's individual physiological needs. If we are discussing sex as an obsessive preoccupation (a mental issue) then it is something totally different. As phsyiological issues go, it is disheartening to me to note whenever someone assumes their sex drive is somehow out of balance because they either desire lots of sex in their lives or little (if any). Each person's needs are different; there is no "norm" when it comes to sexual needs and gratification (especially when a person's individual sexuality, tastes, fetishes (if any) and so forth are taken into consideration). I felt obligated to mention this as I think the whole "sex" issue is one which puritanical American culture and organized religion have attempted to force into molds which are decidedly INhuman and not at all realistic.
Wouldn't you say that if somebody masturbates 5 times a day, that by default, it would be detracting from putting their energy in to other activities that would be more socially rewarding? I have trouble seeing how doing something like that so frequently would not be associated with an obsessive preoccupation.
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