Posted by Cecilia on May 9, 2000, at 17:42:25
In reply to Re: Elephant..., posted by JudithC on May 8, 2000, at 13:06:07
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> Lisa,I will answer your post in the best way that I know possible considering that vanity is a private issue (to me) and this is a public posting board. I am pushing 60 years of age; and many years ago I was married to a very vain man who made pointed statements, such as your husband has,about my weight and this was devastating to me and to my self of being. I was afraid to eat at times for fear of gaining a pound. I loved him dearly and I realized in time that appearances were very important to him;that he would never change. This I address to you: you must be young so you have a full life ahead of you hopefully wed to this same husband so I would advise that you begin a diet immediately and do your utmost best to maintain a weight which you look your best at and please yourself as well as him. Sure this sounds so simple,but you can do it.
> Dieting especially while on so many of these medications is difficult so determine that you can overcome the pull of food and make serious changes in your life. You'll be so much happier.
> The best of all to you.....To Judith: Perhaps you meant well but reality is that (with or without meds) thinness is not attainable on a permanent basis for everyone. (And even if it were, why should the appropriate response to a verbal abuser be to change to fit their needs?)
poster:Cecilia
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