Posted by michael on March 16, 2000, at 2:20:29
In reply to Re: On the other hand...., posted by harry b. on March 15, 2000, at 21:08:26
> Bull's eye, Noa.
>
> yes, I am intimidated by gay men
>
> yes, I am attracted to men who are straight/married
>
> By trying to be more open and self respecting
> I hope to be able to influence the above,
> therapy will also (hopefully) help this process
>
> My new friend. I have thought about this a lot.
> I'm very vulnerable now. His interest and kindness
> toward me, and his own vulnerability, have led
> to a friendship. I have got to be careful not to
> become dependant upon him. I can definitely accept
> friendship & platonic love. Actually, I brought
> this up with my therapist today. My friend and
> I are to meet Friday eveng. My therapist has
> scheduled a session with me Friday afternoon to
> discuss this some more.
>
> Thanks for your concern and astute observations.
Hey Harry -Just a quick 2 cents worth... kind of along the lines you & Noa already mentioned. This may be stating the obvious, but you might freak your friend out a bit (maybe a lot) with your news...
Hopefully not! However, if you've been leaning on him somewhat lately, just make sure you're aware that the support you've become accoustomed to may be withdrawn... partially or temporarily, or totally.
I don't mean to be negative, just playing devil's advocate. It's just something to be aware of, so that if it were to happen, it wouldn't blind side you... Hope that makes some sense... & good luck!
michael
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