Posted by Cass on June 29, 1999, at 13:58:09
In reply to Re: My work with the disabled, posted by saintjames on June 29, 1999, at 0:39:31
> > Hi Saint James,
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> > I really admire your work with people who are hurting. But, you mentioned "contracts." Do people, from your experience, follow through on these contracts? I must admit, when I was seeing a psychologist, he used to beg me to have a contract of non-self harm. I used to agree just to make him feel better. I had no intention of complying. I no longer make false promises like that. But, I can't help but wonder how many people comply with "contracts." If it helps, all for the better. It just didn't work with me. Good luck with everything.
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> > Cass
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> James here....
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> Mixed results is what I understand, this is the only contract I have done and it was sucessful, but no one thing made it stop. When you are on the other side of this issue you will do anything to get a person not to hurt or kill themselves. In this case the person did not feel comfortable calling me at anytime (I work in a rural area and the person was very isolated) so the contract was proof that
> I cared and REALLY could be called at any time. We put things in the contract like " If I tell james I have been hurting myself again he will not get mad at me, hate me ot think less of me." This seemed to be a real fear of this person, despite me assuring this person till I was blue in the face ! It is common for someone to disclose abuse and then the next time you see them, everything is OK...no problems. I used a contract to bridge this period.
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> It all really comes down to the person and if they really mean what they say in a contract, like you say.
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> This person was first put on AD's, which helped but did not totally stop the self abuse. Naltrexone did the trick plus I was able to find a MSW to see this person weekly (that took medicade and worked with this issue often)
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> Cass, what worked for you and how are you doing now ?
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> jamesJames,
Lack of stress is the only thing that helps. Consequently, I feel I have little control over self-destructive urges. Who can totally avoid stress? Of all things, I just got word from a family member that we may have trouble with the i.r.s. That's enough to set anyone back.
Cass
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