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Posted by bookgurl99 on June 15, 2003, at 0:29:02
Every since stopping antidepressants, I've been feeling a lot more anger along with my usual anxiety.
I have a vague memory that when I was in college 5 years ago, I told a professor that I swam an hour a day "because otherwise I would have to hurt someone." So I know that stress and anger seem to have been linked for me for a long time.
I feel really upset, as I want to control my reactions and not hurt others. I'm afraid I did so this week. At work, a clerical error was made in which I was made to appear to have missed much more work than I had. I was within an inch of being fired.
I asked my supervisor to look into this, telling her that I was sure it was a mistake. She didn't completely believe me (we don't work at the same time, so she could not have personally corroborated me). However, I really need my job, and pushed.
I tried to stay calm, but I talked in a very LOUD voice repeating that I was _sure_ this was a mistake and that I really value my job. She said she would look into it, but later that day I saw her coming out of the Human Resources with eyes that looked red from crying.
I'm sure it wasn't just me, but I think my LOUD FORCEFUL statements contributed to her stress level. I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, and I have a feeling that this particular supervisor has experienced abuse in the past. I wish that I could have gotten my point across in a way that would not have triggered uncomfortable memories or feelings for her.
In the end, a highly paid person in Human Resources had to wade through small columns of numbers -- printed information that shows when employees last entered the building based on our electronic badge -- to find out when I left. They discovered a computer glitch, and I was proven correct.
But despite the effectiveness of my complaint, I would really like to handle it differently in the future.
Any suggestions on handling anxiety/anger/ work situations?
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Posted by fallsfall on June 15, 2003, at 12:03:28
In reply to Responding to things with a lot of anger, posted by bookgurl99 on June 15, 2003, at 0:29:02
If she didn't listen to you when you asked nicely, then you have to be more forceful. I don't see that you did anything wrong.
Posted by stjames on June 15, 2003, at 12:48:21
In reply to Re: Responding to things with a lot of anger » bookgurl99, posted by fallsfall on June 15, 2003, at 12:03:28
They were trying to fire you, you defended your self. I would be pissed if work had such sloppy
time keeping. Move on.
Posted by daizy on June 15, 2003, at 13:33:52
In reply to Responding to things with a lot of anger, posted by bookgurl99 on June 15, 2003, at 0:29:02
Ive been doing that lately too, and Im still on antidepressants!!
Has your anxiety lessened since you stopped them?
You had a right to be angry in the situation you were in at work. It must be quite a stressful time for you, adjusting to life without antidepressants anyway, dont beat yourself up about it too much. Im sure it seemed worse than it was? You felt you acted wrongly (I dont think you did!) and now your trying to stop that from happening again, thats the most anyone could do!
Posted by bookgurl99 on June 15, 2003, at 14:14:24
In reply to Responding to things with a lot of anger, posted by bookgurl99 on June 15, 2003, at 0:29:02
Thanks for your messages. I'm surprised that so many people thought I did the right thing.
Maybe you have to be a jerk sometimes to get things done.
I find myself yelling at home too. (Or rather, talking in a loud voice and speaking with conviction and fervor -- my gf calls this 'yelling.')
Am I bothered by this because I'm used to being a malleable zombie? (Like on AD's.) I think I need to learn, at the very least, not to yell at my gf.
*sigh* But I guess that's what therapy's for.
See y'all later,
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