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Posted by shelliR on April 11, 2002, at 21:04:57
This is the first time that I maybe understand why the "old-timers" want a board of their own.
Right now, I wish the population of the board could stand still. Lurkers are fine, but I don't want anyone to arrive without the knowledge of Sar and what we have shared this last week.
Of course I know that there will be new people who will become participants, and then become familiar old members. But for now I wish we could hold on to the intimacy that is now present. I have learned so much about the present folks on PSB through their mourning and the ways in which they shared that mourning. And I am so happy to touch base with people I have traded posts with who have taken a sabbatical . Maybe for the first time I truely feel a member of this group.
Shelli
Posted by Janelle on April 12, 2002, at 1:48:25
In reply to Re Old Timers Board, posted by shelliR on April 11, 2002, at 21:04:57
>Right now, I wish the population of the board could stand still. Lurkers are fine, but I don't want anyone to arrive without the knowledge of Sar and what we have shared this last week.
I am going to make some responses here, with TOTAL RESPECT TO YOU AND YOUR FEELINGS, however I disagree with some of what you're saying.
For example, why don't you want anyone to arrive without the knowledge of Sar and what has been shared this last week? Perhaps the freshness and *innocence* of new posters might help the older ones, who are grieving and suffering to move on a bit when they are ready of course.
> Of course I know that there will be new people who will become participants, and then become familiar old members.
Yes, there will. I think this is the way the boards are designed.
>But for now I wish we could hold on to the intimacy that is now present.
You can, through this SOCIAL board, which is the place to share and continue to share thoughts and feelings about sar. Why does there have to be a separate "old timers" board, which imho would simply segregate those who come to Dr. Bob's boards into "them" (newcomers) and "us" (old timers). It would divide what is intended to be ONE set of boards into two.
>I have learned so much about the present folks on PSB through their mourning and the ways in which they shared that mourning.
I have also, by reading all the posts on this one Social board, and imho this is the perfect place for those who are grieving the loss of sar to congregate and post.
I just don't see the need for the creation of an "old-timers" board. I think it would do more harm than good. The *community* would be divided, in fact, the sense of community would be lost by having two different *neighborhoods* so to speak.
Respectfully,
Janelle
Posted by IsoM on April 12, 2002, at 2:00:52
In reply to Re Old Timers Board, posted by shelliR on April 11, 2002, at 21:04:57
Shelli, I really understand wanting to have an old-timers board but I, too, agree with Janelle. It may be more harmful than helpful. Old-timers can still keep in touch at PB Open & exchange e-mails with each other.
The forums are a continuing process with newbies developing into old-timers eventually. Just like in a small family-oriented community, it's not good to segregate the children from the adults from the elderly. Everyone benefits more from the mingling of ages & experiences. The same is true here too
Posted by Krazy Kat on April 12, 2002, at 8:43:09
In reply to Re Old Timers Board, posted by shelliR on April 11, 2002, at 21:04:57
Posted by shelliR on April 12, 2002, at 9:29:23
In reply to i understand how you feel (nm) » shelliR, posted by Krazy Kat on April 12, 2002, at 8:43:09
Thanks for understanding KK.
I certainly did not mean to bring the contraversy of having an old-timers board to this board. I wasn't advocating for one, although I can perhaps see how it could be
interpreted that way.And yes, I would like the board to be closed now.
That's just a feeling I have. Of wanting to feel
the comfort of people who have gone through this, and a new interest in getting to know the present people better.And I absolutely know the board can't stay still. I wanted to express a feeling, that's all. And a new understanding of why people might want to preserve things the way they were.
I hope everyone can just accept that it was just my feeling, and not a push or vote for anything. And I hope the posting of the pros and cons of a new board can continue on the administration board.
Shelli
Posted by IsoM on April 12, 2002, at 10:36:42
In reply to Re: i understand how you feel, posted by shelliR on April 12, 2002, at 9:29:23
Posted by shelliR on April 12, 2002, at 12:12:26
In reply to I understand completely (nm) » shelliR, posted by IsoM on April 12, 2002, at 10:36:42
Posted by Lini on April 12, 2002, at 14:42:55
In reply to Re: I understand completely :-) (nm) » IsoM, posted by shelliR on April 12, 2002, at 12:12:26
Posted by Shar on April 12, 2002, at 15:15:33
In reply to Re: i understand how you feel, posted by shelliR on April 12, 2002, at 9:29:23
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 12, 2002, at 18:48:41
In reply to Re: i understand how you feel, posted by shelliR on April 12, 2002, at 9:29:23
> yes, I would like the board to be closed now.
> That's just a feeling I have. Of wanting to feel
> the comfort of people who have gone through this, and a new interest in getting to know the present people better.Thanks for sharing your feelings, it's nice that they led to feeling closer to other posters.
> I hope the posting of the pros and cons of a new board can continue on the administration board.
I'd also like that discussion to stay as centralized as possible. Here's a link you can follow to a recent post there:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020308/msgs/4121.html
Bob
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