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Posted by ensoul on March 3, 2002, at 23:42:25
Julius my 2 1/2 yr old grandson, he's lived with me since he was born
of coarse my daughter has very right to move out and get her own place
it's time for her to do thatIt truly never mattered to me if I ever became a grandmother
I was far from thrilled when my daughter at 19 announced that she was pregnant
(she's been a great Mom and a full time college student, Phi Theta Kappa)I didn't take much interest in her pregnancy, when she came to me with questions and concerns I helped as best as I could, I put on her baby shower
having a baby in the house confirmed that I never wanted another child
but it has been truly amazing seeing him grow
talk about mood swings, oh my....2 yrs olds have it down pat and nobody can throw a better temper tantrum or make a bigger mess or take their clothes off quicker
But when I walk through the door no matter what, I get greeted with a loud "HI Anma!"
when I get up in the morning, he grabs my hands leads me into his bedroom, "C'mon Anma"...
we go for walks at night, Julius tells me he gets scared I hug him and tell him all the wonderful things about the night....so now he checks for the moon and starts, grabs his ear says hear wind
he loves to watch me bake, i measure and he pours stuff into the bowl, for some reason he finds cracking an egg is hilarious
And now he has an imagination! Julius loves to come in my bdrm, first thin he always says.....messy room Anma and then laughs, jumps around on the bed, points to my radio and says "hear song"
we're learning songs toocouple weeks ago we both climbed a big snow pile together and I got stuck, my leg went all the way down into the song....Julius started yelling, "help Anma, help Anma"
he can be very bossy but he has a wonderful sense of humor
yes, I know I'll still seem him yes I know they'll still live in the same town
yes the place will be much quieter...no more temper tantrums, loud yelling, feet running
BUT there will much less laughing, less smiles, less silliness, less hugs, less C'mon Anma, less cuddling on the couch Julius sharing his blanket with me
I sorry this is pity at its worse
I never wanted to be one of those Grandma's that make their grandkids there lifelynn
Posted by fi on March 4, 2002, at 7:58:37
In reply to I'm really going to miss him, posted by ensoul on March 3, 2002, at 23:42:25
That sounds really tough, Lynn, and not at all linked with 'self pity'. Julius has been so lucky to have you and your love freely given to him to start him off in life, and it sounds very painful to loose that, for both of you.
I hope you can still see him regularly, but do realise that's not the same as having him there all the time.
You're a wonderful granny.
Fi
Posted by Zo on March 4, 2002, at 19:25:37
In reply to I'm really going to miss him, posted by ensoul on March 3, 2002, at 23:42:25
Oh, honey, I could have written your post. . .thank you for writing it, it's very brave to write about that kind of love, and that kind of loss. It's hard to explain how these little lives can twist our hearts--until you're a grandparent.Zo
Posted by trouble on March 5, 2002, at 4:19:55
In reply to I'm really going to miss him, posted by ensoul on March 3, 2002, at 23:42:25
Hey ensoul,
I love your name, by the way.
That Julien is a lucky child, and I hope you are proud to have been the major influence on the person he will grow up to be.It's not a tolal loss, but it is a loss, and I'd be more worried about you if you weren't grieving it right now. Grief and self-pity aren't the same things, I know you know that, but I just thought I'd remind you anyway. The new solitude can be seen as an opportunity to reconnect w/ your unused parts, and I hope you'll take time now to do some of the fun things for yourself you had to put aside while you were caring for your grandchild.
And of course share your days w/us.
Take care,
trouble
Posted by trouble on March 5, 2002, at 16:25:34
In reply to I'm really going to miss him, posted by ensoul on March 3, 2002, at 23:42:25
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