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Posted by duds on August 19, 2009, at 12:18:07
Anyone ever offered a ride home and accept? I'm not talking about an emergency situation.
Maybe I'll write more later. I'm curious as to how common this is.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on August 19, 2009, at 13:57:53
In reply to Theraputic Boundaries, posted by duds on August 19, 2009, at 12:18:07
My therapist gave me a ride home New year's eve (yup); it was raining and I was soaked when I got to his office. He gave me another ride in the summertime; we sat in his Lexus with the moonroof open, ate chocolate and listened to yanni.
He has led me on and sexualized (no sex) our relationship 5 years ago; perhaps more info. than you wanted!
Sassy
Posted by duds on August 19, 2009, at 15:27:58
In reply to Re: Theraputic Boundaries » duds, posted by sassyfrancesca on August 19, 2009, at 13:57:53
Thanks for replying, sassy. I'm looking for all the insight I can get.
My T. is pretty cool. Therapy is going very well right now.
I guess my T. just feels really comfortable around me. *shrug*
Posted by sassyfrancesca on August 19, 2009, at 15:39:48
In reply to Re: Theraputic Boundaries, posted by duds on August 19, 2009, at 15:27:58
You are welcome! You may want to read: The Intimate Hour by Susan Bauer....quite an eye-opener!
Posted by duds on August 19, 2009, at 15:50:26
In reply to Re: Theraputic Boundaries » duds, posted by sassyfrancesca on August 19, 2009, at 15:39:48
Thank you. :)
Posted by peddidle on August 19, 2009, at 16:34:46
In reply to Theraputic Boundaries, posted by duds on August 19, 2009, at 12:18:07
My car was towed the day before classes started last fall (long story), and I happened to have an appointment with T a couple of hours later. My friends were all busy, and she offered to take me to go get it at the end of the day. Not exactly the same as driving me home, I guess (though, she did offer to pick me up at my apartment, but it really wasn't a problem to just stay on campus, or even to go back to my apartment and then walk the two blocks back to campus lol), but she did go out of her way to drive me to somewhere I needed to be. I don't know if that helps you at all.
Posted by Maxime on August 19, 2009, at 17:56:25
In reply to Re: Theraputic Boundaries » duds, posted by sassyfrancesca on August 19, 2009, at 13:57:53
Wow, I hope you don't still see this therapist. Leading you on is wrong.
Posted by sunnydays on August 19, 2009, at 22:26:39
In reply to Theraputic Boundaries, posted by duds on August 19, 2009, at 12:18:07
I was offered a ride back to my school, which was maybe 2 miles away. I did not accept and continued to wait for my ride. Quite honestly, I think it's inappropriate for therapists to offer patients rides under any but perhaps the most urgent/dire circumstances. I can't really think of what those circumstances would be.
But that's just my opinion. And honestly, I've always been extraordinarily uncomfortable getting rides from almost anyone other than my immediate family, so it may be my issue.
sunnydays
Posted by duds on August 20, 2009, at 3:50:10
In reply to Re: Theraputic Boundaries » duds, posted by sunnydays on August 19, 2009, at 22:26:39
Thanks for the input, folks.
I'm not really comfortable talking about this (there's a little bit more to it) but nothing inappropriate has happened thus far. I don't feel violated.
So, this isn't typical, then? I've been searching endless hours on the internet and can find very little information concerning this topic.
Posted by Nadezda on August 20, 2009, at 11:57:20
In reply to Re: Theraputic Boundaries, posted by duds on August 20, 2009, at 3:50:10
I'm not sure, duds, why you feel uncomfortable. but that suggests to me somehow that something inappropriate has happened; or that at least something that kicks up some very uncomfortable and wrong-feeling emotions in you.
I would be very very concerned about the situation, if I were you. It sounds as though, even if nothing inappropriate "happens"-- in the most concrete sense-- this was at best a misjudgment of the situation by your T, and, at worst, some sort of unconscious seduction by him/her.
I'm really pretty concerned myself about your wellbeing. I know, when you can't point to anything concrete it seems as if everything must be okay-- but this is far from the truth. Please don't minimize whatever feelings you have, or let yourself get drawn into a situation that could be really unhelpful.
Nadezda
Posted by Sigismund on August 20, 2009, at 17:07:25
In reply to Theraputic Boundaries, posted by duds on August 19, 2009, at 12:18:07
I was hitchhiking and my T picked me up. I was 20 and had no money, so it made sense.
Once the room was noisy and we had the session sitting/lying out on the grass where it was quieter.
Posted by duds on August 20, 2009, at 18:34:57
In reply to Re: Theraputic Boundaries » duds, posted by Nadezda on August 20, 2009, at 11:57:20
I don't know...I think the reason I felt a little unsettled is because it seems as though many people frown upon that sort of thing.
I'm probably just reading all of this crap on the internet and that's what's making me anxious.
Really, nothing inappropriate has happened. I'm thinking that my T. is just a T. who knows what level of boundaries my T. can have with certain clients. All of my sessions have been completely focused on me and I've been improving greatly.
I need to stop spending so much time on the internet, methinks. :)
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