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Posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 19:39:58
I'm angry dammit and I can't handle it. I feel so sad too. So I just decided to smoke a lot of pot because I say "f*ck it". I am smoking a lot of pot.
Posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 20:56:28
In reply to alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 19:39:58
the people at my job are tremendous *ssh*l*s, it's actually quite incredible about these people, they are totally and completely two faced.
I'm not sure I've ever seen anything like it. I'm not sure I'm going to have any other way to deal with them but to refuse to make eye contact with them and pretend they don't exist.
Posted by Dinah on July 17, 2009, at 21:41:37
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 20:56:28
Uh oh.
((( Obsidian )))
Sounds like a really bad day. I'm sorry.
Posted by BayLeaf on July 17, 2009, at 22:14:12
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 20:56:28
sorry. your co-workers DO exist. and you can't stay stoned. bummer. let's try another way to cope? i swear, there are other ways.
bay
Posted by Phillipa on July 18, 2009, at 12:59:19
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig) » obsidian, posted by BayLeaf on July 17, 2009, at 22:14:12
Hate to say it but if thought pot would relax me I'd might smoke it. Phillipa
Posted by seldomseen on July 18, 2009, at 15:41:25
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 20:56:28
that *does* sound like a dreadful day. Sometimes dealing with people can be such a drag. I learned a long time ago the marked difference between "work friends" and "real friends".
However, one thing I would like you to consider is that you are giving these people (who obviously do not deserve even a second thought from you) a whole lot of influence over you.
Why does it matter so much what they do?
I don't know what I would do in your situation, but (after 8+ years of therapy) I would be tempted to call them on their behaviour and tell them that you would prefer that they stop. Or perhaps, as you say, just ignore that they are there.
Anything other than letting them have the power to decide how and what I feel, much less how I respond to that feeling.
I know it easier said than done. It's a process. In the meantime, I will hate those people right along with you.
Seldom.
Posted by muffled on July 18, 2009, at 16:19:14
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 20:56:28
Posted by Sigismund on July 18, 2009, at 17:08:44
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 20:56:28
Normally if I smoke pot it poleaxes me and I'm off to bed (not such a bad place to be), but at least in theory I'd like to have some entertaining things to do if I'm stoned. Probably reading about Hitler and Stalin is best put off for another occasion. Maybe Crime and Punishment (too hard to concentrate?)? Maybe Alice in Wonderland? Or a nice video like A Fish Called Wanda?
I know......Have a joint and watch "Synechdoche" (that should keep you baffled). Phillip Seymore Hoffman is in it too.
Posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 0:35:13
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by seldomseen on July 18, 2009, at 15:41:25
thanks,
I'm not doing very well right now at not caring what other people think about me. I am so sensitive to it, and I wish I could be unaware of it and/or unconcerned about it.
I think I'm going to have to go with ignoring their presence. There are already a few people I either ignore completely or respond in only a minimal way to (as necessary).
I have called a couple of them out on their behavior, but it only seems to make me look angry. What I did however was point out some VERY obvious though non-verbal behavior. They'd rather I was invisible. It might be better for me too.
thanks,
sid
Posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 0:35:55
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig) » obsidian, posted by BayLeaf on July 17, 2009, at 22:14:12
you may be right...
thanks,
sid
Posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 0:37:05
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by Dinah on July 17, 2009, at 21:41:37
my momma never said there'd be days like this,
but I've heard the song so I know it's true ;-)
Posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 0:37:41
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by Phillipa on July 18, 2009, at 12:59:19
it just works too well
thanks,
sid
Posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 0:38:07
In reply to (((((((((((((((((((Sid)))))))))))))))))))) (nm), posted by muffled on July 18, 2009, at 16:19:14
Posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 0:40:20
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by Sigismund on July 18, 2009, at 17:08:44
sometimes I write...my thoughts come more easily
sometimes I just sit outside
I can't handle anything too complicated...I get too philosophical
Posted by SLS on July 19, 2009, at 7:08:32
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig) » Sigismund, posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 0:40:20
I am so sorry that you are having such a tough time of things. I wouldn't worry too much about picking up again. It doesn't make all of your previous work evaporate. I think it is important to understand that you don't have to start all over again. You just sort of pick up where you left off before relapsing. If this isn't really an issue for you, I apologize for doing the lecture thing. It is just that I was in a program where substance abuse was one of the conditions being treated. I learned a few things there.
> sometimes I write...my thoughts come more easily
> sometimes I just sit outside
> I can't handle anything too complicated...I get too philosophicalWhenever I have needed to write something as a catharsis, I have written very fast and non-stop. It doesn't have to make sense and can be a single run-on sentence if you wish. It is better to write about what you are feeling and try not to intellectualize too much. For some people, intellectualizing is a defense mechanism to prevent painful or shameful thoughts and feelings from emerging.
In any event, you are probably doing what is right for you by detaching somewhat from the social environment at work, at least for now. You are being what you feel. Hopefully, you will be able to achieve a balance where you can communicate with your coworkers in a cordial manner while still maintaining the boundaries that serve you best.
Good luck.
One day at a time, right?
- Scott
Posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 12:35:34
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig) » obsidian, posted by SLS on July 19, 2009, at 7:08:32
> I am so sorry that you are having such a tough time of things. I wouldn't worry too much about picking up again. It doesn't make all of your previous work evaporate. I think it is important to understand that you don't have to start all over again. You just sort of pick up where you left off before relapsing. If this isn't really an issue for you, I apologize for doing the lecture thing. It is just that I was in a program where substance abuse was one of the conditions being treated. I learned a few things there.
I know I am going to smoke again. The thing that I am concerned about though is keeping some good habits up. I found a few reasons to smoke and I went with it. Whether or not it becomes my the focus of my life remains to be seen.
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> > sometimes I write...my thoughts come more easily
> > sometimes I just sit outside
> > I can't handle anything too complicated...I get too philosophical
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> Whenever I have needed to write something as a catharsis, I have written very fast and non-stop. It doesn't have to make sense and can be a single run-on sentence if you wish. It is better to write about what you are feeling and try not to intellectualize too much. For some people, intellectualizing is a defense mechanism to prevent painful or shameful thoughts and feelings from emerging.I keep meaning to keep up a journal.
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> In any event, you are probably doing what is right for you by detaching somewhat from the social environment at work, at least for now. You are being what you feel. Hopefully, you will be able to achieve a balance where you can communicate with your coworkers in a cordial manner while still maintaining the boundaries that serve you best.Again I have to find a way both to detach and do my job at the same time. It is a challenge.
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> Good luck.
>
> One day at a time, right?thanks Scott, I know I will be ok, eventually
-sid
Posted by obsidian on July 21, 2009, at 20:14:18
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig) » SLS, posted by obsidian on July 19, 2009, at 12:35:34
god, I am smoking a lot of pot....today I started doodling, made a big "STOP" out red letters before I even really thought about it
well now, here's the part where you worry about someone maybe (or maybe not), but maybe you think it could be a problem (or maybe not)
but I'm kinda like, "oh it's no big deal...I just get really indifferent is all, and feel really depressed.", but it's just that I can't stand not being high you see
I've been trying to feel better, at least physically, and it's worked to a certain degree, but now I'm dealing with something kind of scary, and I don't think I'm completely dealing with it
Posted by hyperfocus on July 28, 2009, at 15:56:21
In reply to alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 19:39:58
kinda late to say this but anyway
The best thing I think would be to speak to them with a superior present and explain the things that they have done to make you upset. Ignoring them isn't going to solve anything and in the meanwhile you're building up a lot of resentment and hurt. This isn't healthy for you emotionally.What I learned is that no matter how you treat people you're always gonna have to deal with people trying to hurt you. So there's no point carrying around hate for other people - it's toxic to your spirit. Talk to your superiors and tell them that they are doing stuff that is affecting your work performance. A good manager will work quickly to stomp out these things in the workplace.
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