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Posted by myco on March 10, 2009, at 13:01:47
Hi,
My parents are going through some hard times at the moment. Mom has decided that she doesn't want to be on meds anymore...she went cold turkey actually after 4 years on various SSRI's. She is the neurotic type (atyp dep with lots of anxiety). Problems were there quite a bit between her and dad before the meds...her going cold turkey has sent her emotions into hyper spin downward and is really taking its tole on their marriage (she think she wants to leave him but I know in reality she wouldn't). Dad is the typical guy-guy who isn't very good with emotions...he doesn't quite understand all the issues with mom in terms of her illness. He just sees it as another ongoing female mood swing type of thing. So that brings me to this:...he's agreed, from my encouragement, to read about her issues, how depression/anx effect mood, can damage relationships, how it effects thinking and reaction etc...I haven't read anything outside the medical literature so i'm asking you, the compassionate and well read babbler, if you would know of any very good quality reads that would help dad understand mom in terms of how her biological issues and bad behavioural addaptations are effecting her thinking and their marriage issues. Like I said, I have no idea where to start with the book-type read. There is so much out there and it seems to vary wildy in terms of positive reviews.
Any suggestions or comments would be welcome.
Thanks,
myco
*will also post this on the books board*
Posted by Phillipa on March 10, 2009, at 15:47:44
In reply to Help my dad understand Mom's issues please - books, posted by myco on March 10, 2009, at 13:01:47
Try Amazon with the diagnosis of your Mom. So sorry. Is she near menopausal? Love Phillipa
Posted by backseatdriver on March 10, 2009, at 15:48:32
In reply to Re: Help my dad understand Mom's issues please - books » myco, posted by Phillipa on March 10, 2009, at 15:47:44
Peter Kramer, "Against Depression" is good on how mood disorder affects relationships
Posted by 10derHeart on March 10, 2009, at 16:58:21
In reply to Re: Help my dad understand Mom's issues please - b, posted by backseatdriver on March 10, 2009, at 15:48:32
"Against Depression" is good on how mood disorder affects relationships
Double-double quotes allow you to link directly to the title on Amazon. It's not required, of course, but Dr. Bob encourages us to use it.http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#options
I agree with Phillipa. I think if you search depression and marriage, or depression anxiety and partners, or family, or relationships etc, you will get some hit within Amazon for sure. Of course, that won't help if you're looking for people who have already read the books. I do find reading the reviews on Amazon is often helpful.
Posted by obsidian on March 10, 2009, at 22:04:16
In reply to linking to Amazon from Babble, posted by 10derHeart on March 10, 2009, at 16:58:21
you know I read this one a long time ago, but I know that I liked it because I read it very quickly
Posted by myco on March 12, 2009, at 22:39:32
In reply to Help my dad understand Mom's issues please - books, posted by myco on March 10, 2009, at 13:01:47
Wish more people would have shared but thats ok. I have reviewed the two books suggested and they look good. I will pick em both up off amazon, have a quick look and pass them to dad.
Thanks for the suggestions, means alot
myco
Posted by lucie lu on March 13, 2009, at 7:51:22
In reply to Re: Help my dad understand Mom's issues please - books » myco, posted by myco on March 12, 2009, at 22:39:32
Myco,
I can understand your disappointment. I can't speak for others, but I did read your post and didn't know what to suggest, at least without more information. The basis of your mom's symptoms are unclear - would they be considered mostly depression? BPD? PTSD? bipolar? substance abuse? hormonal? Without having more of a sense of the problem it is really hard to identify sources that might be helpful. Could you arrange a consultation with someone to help you gain some insight into the problem?
I'm sorry you are having to go through this. It is hard when family members or others we care about are having a tough time.
Best,
Lucie
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