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Posted by obsidian on November 6, 2008, at 22:04:41
I've got a problem with this. It seems almost impossible for me to be on time for certain things. I mean I can't get my *ss out of the damn bed. I would say it was all about the seroquel, but I was like this before it...now it just adds the extra challenge ;-)
I hate getting up in the mornings. When I start waking up early in the morning I know I am in f*ck*ng trouble.but I seem to have this magical idea about how long it takes to get to work. If I had a helicopter, perhaps I could make it work, but as it is...it ain't working
The thing is that I like to stay up late, I worry about missing things when I go to sleep earlier, but missing what? probably just time with my self
I mean holy crap, I always seem to be around people. I mean all f*ck*ng day, and they keep coming at me...obsidian, obsidian, obsidianI am such an introvert, I don't know how I tolerate it all
Posted by Suedehead on November 6, 2008, at 22:24:34
In reply to hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?., posted by obsidian on November 6, 2008, at 22:04:41
Hmm. That's tricky. I'm chronically/pathologically early, so I basically have the opposite problem. Actually, I have a pretty extreme fear of and aversion to being late. But I think you pretty much answered your own question at the end of your post--you stay up late so that you have time to yourself, which is very, very understandable (I'm an introvert, too, and know how hard it is to be around people all day long), and it's not easy to wake up in the morning when you haven't had enough sleep. I mean, I don't know if you're asking if there is some 'deeper' meaning to chronic lateness, or what, and maybe there is (my T would say so, I'm sure), but I really do think that there's a strong physiological component. Most people I know who are chronically late are also chronically sleep-deprived.
One other thought--something that I really enjoy about getting up early enough to take my time getting ready is that I have some time to myself before I have to deal with the rest of the world. Maybe you could think of your time before work as your *own* time. I've found that getting out of bed is much easier when I know that I don't have to hurry to shower, get dressed, etc. and run out the door in twenty minutes to go and do things that I don't really have much interest in doing.
Posted by obsidian on November 6, 2008, at 22:59:43
In reply to Re: hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?., posted by Suedehead on November 6, 2008, at 22:24:34
I don't even like to think about getting up in the morning, like it's painful
I've never been realistic about how much sleep I need, so I've always tried to get by with less. Now that I am on seroquel this an even bigger joke of a coping mechanism.
but I guess if I got up earlier to start and then I HAD to go to sleep, then I might stop staying up late for a day or two, but I am always so tempted to stay up
Posted by antigua3 on November 7, 2008, at 6:00:57
In reply to hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?., posted by obsidian on November 6, 2008, at 22:04:41
I've always heard that chronic lateness is a passive/aggressive kind of thing, a way to have control over the situation.
Not sure if it applies to you,and I'm certainly not saying it does, but just thought I'd throw it out there.
antigua
Posted by raisinb on November 7, 2008, at 10:12:58
In reply to hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?., posted by obsidian on November 6, 2008, at 22:04:41
hi Sid--This is all speculation but...It sounds as if you feel that during the daytime, you're regulated and have to follow other people's rules. So you need, at night, a time of freedom, time with yourself, and maybe, underneath, you also resent having to be on someone else's time table--hence the lateness.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on November 7, 2008, at 10:19:11
In reply to hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?., posted by obsidian on November 6, 2008, at 22:04:41
(Obsidian): I have read that being late, is about control.
Think about it and I will bill you later, LOL, LOL
Hugs, Sassy
Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2008, at 12:54:11
In reply to hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?., posted by obsidian on November 6, 2008, at 22:04:41
Well, as someone who is not a morning person, I'd have to say it seems perfectly reasonable to me. There are those of us who no matter what time we get to bed are fit for little until midmorning.
Forcing yourself to bed early might help. Do you take something like Provigil? I have my husband pop a Provigil in my mouth as he leaves, and hand me an open drink to guide to my lips since my eyes are closed. It helps me get past that big hump of waking up a half hour or hour later.
And this might sound silly but I understand there are now alarm clocks that release scent in the morning. I've been thinking of getting one to release some nice invigorating mintiness first thing in the morning. My new bath soap is peppermint, and it really seems to clear my head, at least for a while.
Of course there's always the put your alarm on the other side of the room trick. Although I can get past that one.
Or I can lend you my newest dog. My husband lets her out in the morning, but she apparently thinks it's criminal to sleep in and starts barking and jumping on the bed and yanking my clothes the second the door closes as he leaves. He used to call to make sure I was up at a certain time, but now he leaves it to her.
Posted by Midnightblue on November 8, 2008, at 0:32:42
In reply to Re: hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?. » obsidian, posted by Dinah on November 7, 2008, at 12:54:11
Dinah,
Are you sure he didn't TRAIN your new dog to do that? :-)
MB
Posted by Dinah on November 8, 2008, at 9:44:52
In reply to Re: hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?. » Dinah, posted by Midnightblue on November 8, 2008, at 0:32:42
Posted by maysie on November 15, 2008, at 22:19:28
In reply to Re: hey, what do you think chronic lateness is about?. » Dinah, posted by Midnightblue on November 8, 2008, at 0:32:42
Obidsidian,
I'm a mother and I'd have you down to the doc's to have your thyroid and other hormone levels checked. I'd also have you in for a sleep study.
See what a nag I'd be.
Anyway, sleep is so complicated and lack of it messes with my head quicker than depression ever did for me. Look at physical issues, before you assume it's being lazy or something.
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