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Posted by muffled on December 25, 2007, at 12:36:08
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Posted by sunnydays on December 26, 2007, at 0:06:43
In reply to Sunnydays, JoniS, others....how goes it???(nm), posted by muffled on December 25, 2007, at 12:36:08
It's ok. So far better than expected. I really miss my T and I feel like my head is getting all confused again about what's right and what's not. But I'm ok.
sunnydays
Posted by JoniS on December 26, 2007, at 20:52:48
In reply to Sunnydays, JoniS, others....how goes it???(nm), posted by muffled on December 25, 2007, at 12:36:08
Hi Muff
Thanks for asking. I'm OK - I just stay on the surface, avoid feeling anything. I'm pretty down but just keeping it under.
I read your post about T's and support and the Holidays. I get it - Exactly what you were saying. They need a break, but meanwhile we have to deal with our needing them and that AINT fun.
So I survived this week. Only 13 weeks to go til my T returns. I really think I'll be cured of him by then and wont need to go back. It's gonna be H_ll for a while though.
I really appreciate you Muff. Hope you are doing well.
Joni
Posted by rskontos on December 26, 2007, at 21:26:57
In reply to Its going, posted by JoniS on December 26, 2007, at 20:52:48
Oh Joni I can hear your pain underneath your brave voice and i am sorry for it. Maybe you can be the T by then and he can be your first patient.......lol just a little reverse therapy humor however poorly it is....I just let my T go and am trying a new p-doc that I think is going to do both my t and be a doc. I think he will be good for my brain cooties ( i saw this on another site and decided it works well for now, non descriptive you know) but today was not so good but I am moving on despite it.....determined like you to move on or at least try.
Are you saying you aren't going back to T or just think you will be cured of your attachment. Let us know if you want to talk during the next 13 weeks. Did your T give a backup T if you need one?
Let us know how you are doing in the meantime. Hang in there sweetie........ ((((JoniS)))))))))))))))))
Posted by Dinah on December 26, 2007, at 23:11:01
In reply to Its going, posted by JoniS on December 26, 2007, at 20:52:48
(((Joni)))
I haven't wanted to ask, because I wasn't sure how much you wanted to talk about it.
I went through something similar with my therapist and in the end it turned out ok. But then, and even now sometimes, I wish I had "gotten over" him. Sometimes it seems to me that it must be like having a bad breakup. At first it seems like the world is ending, but eventually the world (darn it) moves along and I perforce move with it.
If being cured of him is what you think is best, I hope you're speedily forgetting him. If you wish to reconnect, my therapist and I are proof that it can be done. Maybe not the way it was before, but in a different nice way.
Posted by JoniS on December 27, 2007, at 15:24:56
In reply to Its going, posted by JoniS on December 26, 2007, at 20:52:48
I really appreciate your support. My next T appointment is March 31 when he returns from sabbatical. I am hating the cruelty of therapy so much right now that I hope I am strong enough to cancel the appointment and never go back.
Posted by star008 on December 27, 2007, at 22:32:01
In reply to Its going - Thanks rsk, Dinah, posted by JoniS on December 27, 2007, at 15:24:56
Joni,
I know therapy is no fun but why do you want to cnacel and not go back?? Is it the attachment u don't like?? I really hate that part myself.. Makes me feel like such an immature loser..Can't handle life on my own. 13 weeks is a long time. Even if there is a backup for you we know that isn't the same. I called a backone once in all these years.. I hated her and I wouldn't do it again.
hang in there. i know it is hard and it hurts
Posted by muffled on December 29, 2007, at 18:48:51
In reply to Re: Sunnydays, JoniS, others....how goes it??? » muffled, posted by sunnydays on December 26, 2007, at 0:06:43
Posted by muffled on December 29, 2007, at 18:57:47
In reply to Its going, posted by JoniS on December 26, 2007, at 20:52:48
> Thanks for asking. I'm OK - I just stay on the surface, avoid feeling anything. I'm pretty down but just keeping it under.
*ahhh, numbing...ok for awhile, but gets tiresome...
> I read your post about T's and support and the Holidays. I get it - Exactly what you were saying. They need a break, but meanwhile we have to deal with our needing them and that AINT fun.*no, its life. Life is not fair. Its hard is right. My T was away for ??? mebbe 8 wks awhile back, don't remmeber, but anyhow, it was hard, but also good in some strange way. And going back was OK. I think I was scared at first, but then it was kinda cool. Cuz it was the same really. Even though such a long time had passed. And though it was awful hard at times, I made it, and that felt good too.
> So I survived this week. Only 13 weeks to go til my T returns. I really think I'll be cured of him by then and wont need to go back. It's gonna be H_ll for a while though.
*OMG!!! I said the same thing!!! But I DID go back. And we were working on termination!! Cuz I didn't figger I needed T no more....wrongo. Now I back and working away...
Mebbe you don't NEED to go back. But at least go thru proper termination when he comes back. I think its good to have closure, for both the T and the client.
Did you guys come to any descision as to any contact while he is gone?
That can be tough too....
Do you have a plan as to what to do if you start to go downhill? NOT that you will, but always good to be prepared.
Please feel free to vent on babble if it helps at all.
We 'get it' bout T stuff....
Take good acre,
M
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