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Posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 21:28:59
lately I'm thinking it'd be a good idea....lots of things just slip my mind
I kind of feel like I need an agenda, a therapy "to do" list of sorts
Posted by angela2 on November 13, 2007, at 22:12:24
In reply to anyone ever write down what to talk about with T?, posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 21:28:59
I do that sometimes.
Posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 22:29:34
In reply to *raises hand* » obsidian, posted by angela2 on November 13, 2007, at 22:12:24
to add to the list (among other things)....
"the hug" - acceptable or unacceptable ?
Posted by Sigismund on November 14, 2007, at 2:38:05
In reply to :-) » angela2, posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 22:29:34
I was going to say the important thing is that your T knows what you are comfortable with?
But what if you are so conflicted that you are comfortable with nothing?
Anyway, no hugging with my T.
But that was in the 70s and she was a kinda orthodox Winnicottian.
Posted by Wittgenstein on November 14, 2007, at 4:30:39
In reply to anyone ever write down what to talk about with T?, posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 21:28:59
Due to the train times, I end up arriving in my T's neighbourhood 30 minutes before the session, so always have some time to think through things a bit.
Do any of you imagine/daydream conversations with your T? I feel a bit sad to admit this but I find myself doing this a fair bit - although then it's much easier to think what to say (or what I would say) then when actually sitting there with him, and go blank.
I did once make myself a therapy agenda :) but it felt so contrived - I'm meant to speak freely and say whatever 'pops' into my head so the agenda sabotaged that somewhat lol.
I'd say, do whatever suits and works for you best - if a therapy check-list helps keep everything in mind, then why not?
Posted by Wittgenstein on November 14, 2007, at 4:36:21
In reply to Hugs, posted by Sigismund on November 14, 2007, at 2:38:05
Ditto - no hugs :( - perhaps he might make an exception on the very final session, perhaps.
Posted by rskontos on November 14, 2007, at 10:42:58
In reply to anyone ever write down what to talk about with T?, posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 21:28:59
Almost always, I have a ongoing list in a journal of things to cover.......rk
Posted by Phillipa on November 14, 2007, at 12:06:36
In reply to Re: anyone ever write down what to talk about with T?, posted by rskontos on November 14, 2007, at 10:42:58
Seems to not matter what I want to talk about she changes it as I go off on tangents. And I learned to hug when working. Hugs can be healing. Love Phillipa
Posted by angela2 on November 14, 2007, at 14:35:57
In reply to :-) » angela2, posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 22:29:34
Good question. Sometimes it's hard to know. Right now I'm wondering if it would be OK to give my pdoc a christmas present. It's something I made, and every time I look at it I think of her. I'm just not sure if it would be appropriate.
Posted by Dory on November 14, 2007, at 15:07:03
In reply to anyone ever write down what to talk about with T?, posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 21:28:59
not like a list.. but i have this huge pile of letters i have written to him that include stuff like that. All either of us needs to do is refer back to the letters.
if you want an actual list, i don't see a problem with that.. maybe ask him to add to it. Another thought is to put a sentence or two next to each item. Six months from now you might not know exactly what you were getting at. My T told me how he jotted down something cryptic in a file and has yet to figure out what he was trying to make note of, even though he put exclamation points next to it. Just a thought.
Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2007, at 19:06:40
In reply to anyone ever write down what to talk about with T?, posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 21:28:59
When things are swirling around in my mind, I jot down a few words as they come to me. Not a list precisely but a reminder to myself.
I also have a big envelope of issues I've been carrying around forever. However, when I glanced at them the other day I saw that most of them weren't really issues anymore.
Posted by Muffled on November 19, 2007, at 12:31:25
In reply to anyone ever write down what to talk about with T?, posted by obsidian on November 13, 2007, at 21:28:59
yup, I email, then i sposed to make a list of whats most important this week to talk bout.
My T would hug, she that way, but I don't want to.
M
Posted by pstrait on November 26, 2007, at 4:14:37
In reply to Re: anyone ever write down what to talk about with » obsidian, posted by Wittgenstein on November 14, 2007, at 4:30:39
I imagine talking with my therapist basically whenever I drive, and I feel like I get as much or more therapeutic benefit from doing that as from actual therapy, having genuine insights, etc.
Posted by Muffled on November 26, 2007, at 8:58:27
In reply to Re: anyone ever write down what to talk about with, posted by pstrait on November 26, 2007, at 4:14:37
Posted by Dinah on November 26, 2007, at 9:22:53
In reply to Re: anyone ever write down what to talk about with, posted by pstrait on November 26, 2007, at 4:14:37
I do that too!
My therapist teases me that the therapist in my mind is much better and more satisfying than he is.
Posted by 10derHeart on November 26, 2007, at 12:54:04
In reply to Re: anyone ever write down what to talk about with » pstrait, posted by Dinah on November 26, 2007, at 9:22:53
Me, too, all the time! I think I'm rehearsing, trying to build up courage, or practice the more sensitive stuff before I try doing it "for real. "And I sometimes relate those imaginary sessions to him, which almost always leads to an important, actual session.
When I mention that I'm about to tell him about one of these "session in my mind," he'll usually smile and say something like, "Was I any good?" or "How did I do this time?"
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