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Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 10:11:51
I know that everyone knows that what I say about him has more to do with me than it does with him. He would probably be amused and surprised at my recounting of our relationship. And he likely wouldn't even recognize some of our exchanges as I report them here.
I know everyone knows that, but I thought I'd just make it clear.
Posted by happyflower on November 2, 2007, at 11:47:07
In reply to My apologies to my therapist, posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 10:11:51
(((((Dinah))) I am sorry if my post upset you, I guess I shouldn't have posted what I did. I am sorry.
Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 12:41:48
In reply to Re: My apologies to my therapist, posted by happyflower on November 2, 2007, at 11:47:07
No, it's ok. He knows about that and thinks it's quite amusing.
I felt kind of bad about what I said in chat last night, even though I made it clear it was all my thoughts, not anything he said. And that made me feel guilty about anything I ever said that might be misinterpreted.
I tend to get in an OCD flareup sometimes. Especially when I come off a deadline. I suspect that's happening a bit right now. When that happens I feel the need to "undo". I think my post is an undoing post.
No need for you to feel responsible.
Posted by happyflower on November 2, 2007, at 13:26:33
In reply to Re: My apologies to my therapist » happyflower, posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 12:41:48
Okay, I feel relieved, I thought you were feeling that way because of my post. I wasn't in chat last night, I was sleeping for once, so I missed it.
I think sometimes we need a "undo" button we could push to start over again.Athough I am sure whatever you said, your T would be understanding
about it. But now I am a little intrigued about what you said, I hate it when I miss the good stuff in chat! lol Take care Dinah! I thought of you when I saw tons of doggie halloween costumes at Target yesterday. There were more choices than for humans!
Posted by DAisym on November 2, 2007, at 14:05:00
In reply to Re: My apologies to my therapist, posted by happyflower on November 2, 2007, at 13:26:33
I think we all know that what gets posted here is much more about "us" than "them." How we feel can sway the grammer, the punctuation and the sub-text of the thread. I know there are times when I've written about a session and taken it in and my therapist is very surprised at my assumptions or my conclusions. And I think I have a good memory for sessions!
Your therapist has shown himself to be accepting and "unflappable." He knows that however much you might "complain" about him, you have a strong, committed relationship. He cares - you care. You vent here -- or explore the feelings and thoughts in your head. I think that is what Babble is for.
I doubt he would think an apology is necessary. I think it is sweet you put it out here anyway.
Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 16:50:14
In reply to Re: My apologies to my therapist, posted by DAisym on November 2, 2007, at 14:05:00
You're right. :) He really is accepting of that sort of thing. And he has explicitly said that he thinks it's a good thing for me to be able to vent here, so I'm guessing he realizes "venting" isn't usually positive in nature.
I feel so clingy and needy for him today. Part of the whole anxiety thing I guess.
It was an interesting session today. I shared my fears and my feeling clingy. I told him (not for the first time I'm sure - he's a great listener because he forgets a lot) about how I used to give myself points if I got him to drawl or laugh. And how I forgot something in my car once, so rode up in the elevator with his clients who were leaving and who were talking about him.
And I told him about my visualizing therapy right now as myself as a kitten butting against his hand for a neck scritch. I asked what he thought of that, but he made me tell my own interpretations first. I told him I thought of it as my feeling affectionate and asking for something from him, and with further prodding guessed that the "something" was likely teasing or affection and that I might be looking to him as I used to look to my father. He agreed with that, and liked the playfulness that he image brought to mind for him. But he also asked if I thought it meant I was marking him the way cats do with the scent glands near their ears and on their butts. At my indignant glance, he added laughingly that he realized my imagery did not involve my rubbing my butt against him. :D I don't really think I had possessiveness in mind though.
All in all it was an embarassing, but warm and companionable, session. And he took everything very well. With his customary aplomb and good humor.
And here I am overdisclosing again. I'll probably end up getting scared by this now.
Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 16:54:20
In reply to Re: My apologies to my therapist, posted by happyflower on November 2, 2007, at 13:26:33
It wasn't all that good. Just some nagging thoughts that I've kept to myself because I know they're stupid, and that I wish I had continued to keep to myself. :)
We didn't dress the doggies up! We're having a really difficult time celebrating Halloween these last few years, because it's hard to find somewhere with bustling streets full of candygivers. My mother's street used to have two block parties, live music, and people coming from all over. Last year there was hardly any people at all handing out candy. And this year activity was up from last year but way down from years previous. We'll have to do some scouting before next year.
Sigh.
Posted by happyflower on November 2, 2007, at 17:08:37
In reply to Re: My apologies to my therapist » DAisym, posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 16:50:14
OMG Dinah,
I just spitted out my diet dr. pepper all over the screen!
That T conversation is awesome about the cats, but it was so funny and I wasn't expecting that would be his interpetation. Thank goodness I have a spill proof keyboard. lol
Thanks for the laugh, I SO needed that! (((Dinah)))
Posted by RealMe on November 2, 2007, at 21:45:15
In reply to Re: My apologies to my therapist » DAisym, posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 16:50:14
That is just great; I love it!!! I would freak if my therapist said something about marking him and implying the rubbing of butts. It is funny though.
RealMe
Posted by muffled on November 3, 2007, at 1:04:12
In reply to Re: My apologies to my therapist » DAisym, posted by Dinah on November 2, 2007, at 16:50:14
Posted by Dinah on November 4, 2007, at 17:39:31
In reply to Dinah you are an ongoing delight :-) (nm) » Dinah, posted by muffled on November 3, 2007, at 1:04:12
Well, I suppose my therapist deserves the credit.
I guess my use of the word in another context made it pop into his mind. :)
I suppose I ought to have asked if he feels like I'm possessive towards him. I wonder if he was waiting for me to do that?
That wasn't the focus of the session of course. Actually it was focused a lot on behavioral changes I want to make.
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