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Posted by Happyflower 1 :-) on August 24, 2007, at 21:16:45
This new T of mine, saw I had emotions on the surface and instead of making me laugh or distract me, like my old T did, he allowed me to FEEL them. But before doing the EMDR, he just said stuff that made me cry, for example, I want you to hear the words your T told you, I want you to feel the dager pierce through your heart. Let the hurt come out to the surface. I am like holey sh*t, I COULDN"T hold it in and I am so good at that too. This was only the 2nd visit too.
But one thing I feel like it is okay to cry in front of him because he is "warm and fuzzy". Sounds weird, but he ozzes warmth, or maybe it is me ozzy transference. LOL But I feel safe and to let myself be so vunerable with him so soon has me amazed really. How did he get through the layers of self protection so fast with me?
Was it because the hurt I was feeling was "so there" at the moment, and his instincts were that I needed to let it go. I guess I am a bit surprised by myself and by my new T and what happened. How did he know?
I am so overwhelmed with being so exhausted, but yet I felt lighter going in to see my old T today. I felt a lot of that pain got released the day before. My face was actually chapped and raw from crying the day before, but today I felt strong to face my old T.
How did my new T know?
Posted by RealMe on August 24, 2007, at 22:06:07
In reply to Do your T's MAKE you cry ?, posted by Happyflower 1 :-) on August 24, 2007, at 21:16:45
I don't know how your therapist did it, but mine did the same thing right away--cut through the layers quickly and I saw myself being vulnerable and thinking it is okay. Now I waiver back and forth after three and one-half months. I think for both of us our old therapists were uncomfortable with our pain. Mine would get angry sometimes and say stupid stuff.
RealMe (Oz)
Posted by JoniS on August 24, 2007, at 23:03:35
In reply to Do your T's MAKE you cry ?, posted by Happyflower 1 :-) on August 24, 2007, at 21:16:45
"How did my new T know?"
Doesn't it just tick you off sometimes to find that T's have us figured out, as though we are sooo predictable? It does me. [In reality, I'm glad they are so good at what they do, most of them anyway]
HF I like everyone else am proud of how you handled yourself this week. I am also happy for you to have had such a good ending session with old T. When you think about it, I gues you couldn't have asked for it to go any better than it did. That is a warm & fuzzy.
By the way, my does let me cry. He doesn't push me in any direction, meaning to cry or to make a joke so I wont cry, he just sits and looks intensely and does not "react" so that I know he's not gonna freak out no matter what I do.
If I had a week like yours, I would need at least 2 naps and 2 mocha chocolate chip muffins! Emotional stuff is so draining.
Way to Go!
Posted by widget on August 25, 2007, at 7:13:16
In reply to Do your T's MAKE you cry ?, posted by Happyflower 1 :-) on August 24, 2007, at 21:16:45
Yes, but I have never been actually encouraged to cry. The quotes you gave that your therapist said like feeling the pain like a dagger through your heart sound a bit much but I wasn't there. He may have just been encouraging you having your feelings at a gut level which is great. That's why you're there. And, its also great that he oozes warmth.
My therapist is calm and receptive to my tears, my anger, my whatever and will just sit and let it come. There is nothing I can throw at him that isn't ok. I think I actually sometimes "test" his limits for this and have not rattled him, except maybe a little when I first confessed my deep feelings for him. But, he recovered nicely and is ok with the "love" stuff. I usually feel much better if I can cry there although emotionally drained and in need of quiet time to process and recover.
Posted by muffled on August 25, 2007, at 9:39:02
In reply to Re: Do your T's MAKE you cry ? » Happyflower 1 :-), posted by widget on August 25, 2007, at 7:13:16
I don't cry.
But anyways, I think its wonderful that things are going so well.
Its seem you are really an open person, up to a point of course, then you are like so many of us, and do anything to keep others from getting too close.
So this seems to bea good thing that things going so good w/T.
Its nice to read these happy posts.
Thanks,
M
Posted by B2chica on August 27, 2007, at 8:30:08
In reply to Re: Do your T's MAKE you cry ?, posted by muffled on August 25, 2007, at 9:39:02
yes. and i'm just now finally to the point where it doesn't freak me out. cuz you know i have 'women'/trust issues and when i first cried infront of her (even though it wasn't that much) i went home and broke down even worse.
now i barely make it into her office before i start....
it was SO hard to get comfortable doing that. i'm still a little uneasy, but now that my kids coming out i don't have control over it. and in a way it almost makes it easier.it is important that you let these tears out HF. you need to cry...you Deserve to cry.
(((((((HF)))))))
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