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Posted by muffled on November 9, 2006, at 11:17:42
My T is going away for 5 weeks in the spring, to a far away place.
I thot my T was being dumb warning me MONTHS ahead.
But then I read Daisys thread, and thot, mebbe not so dumb.
But I can't see that far ahead.
So right now, I don't care.
Cept I'm thrilled she and her family(mostly) are able to go. They are a hard working family and totally deserve it.
So I don't care. I'm ALWAYS fine.
Just ask me again in March or whenever she said it was.....
Anyone else had to deal with long breaks?
What was it like?
Muffled
Posted by Lindenblüte on November 9, 2006, at 11:45:41
In reply to T vacation, posted by muffled on November 9, 2006, at 11:17:42
I frequently have taken breaks of 3-4 weeks in between sessions.
It helps me to check in with babble, and keep a journal. If I feel like I continue to learn and grow, even when not meeting with T that week, I still feel like a good client.
Sometimes, though these weeks are a reminder that stability and the bond with the T need regular "refreshing". It might be hard to go for so long without that feeling of contact and support.
Perhaps your T can recommend a group that you can meet with regularly in her absence, or another T that you can meet with once or twice ahead of time, and you can keep the "substitute" T on-call if you need to talk to someone.
Or, you can write your faxes, but put them in bottles and throw them into the sea once a week?
-Li
Posted by muffled on November 9, 2006, at 12:04:49
In reply to Re: T vacation » muffled, posted by Lindenblüte on November 9, 2006, at 11:45:41
> I frequently have taken breaks of 3-4 weeks in between sessions.
**This is 5 weeks!!!???????????
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> It helps me to check in with babble, and keep a journal. If I feel like I continue to learn and grow, even when not meeting with T that week, I still feel like a good client.***I do that stuff already.
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> Sometimes, though these weeks are a reminder that stability and the bond with the T need regular "refreshing". It might be hard to go for so long without that feeling of contact and support.**Yeah, I used to lose connection w/T after 24 hrs!!!!
Now I do sorta OK with week to week. I think I start to lose connection after bout 3-4 days now. But its also not as hard to restablish when I get to next session.
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> Perhaps your T can recommend a group that you can meet with regularly in her absence, or another T that you can meet with once or twice ahead of time, and you can keep the "substitute" T on-call if you need to talk to someone.**She already mentioned a 'nice lady' in passing. I dunno. Mebbe if there's some connection btwn. my T and this 'nice lady', then it would be easier? I seem to recall reading a post about that on babble awhile back. I am NOT good at talking to people face to face generally.
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> Or, you can write your faxes, but put them in bottles and throw them into the sea once a week?
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***Now THIS I LIKE!!!! Seriously, I really like this. Cept mt variation would be to write it, and hide it under a rock in the forest, in a safe place where me and my T have been. So that being said, what a good idea. I think I need to get my T to make a safe place so I can do that....I just have to ASK her, UGHHHHHHHH. Not so good at asking.
Thanks Li.
Muffled
Posted by SatinDoll on November 9, 2006, at 12:38:46
In reply to Re: T vacation, posted by muffled on November 9, 2006, at 12:04:49
Okay 5 weeks is a very long time in any work field. I personally feel it is a little too much considering the work she is in and the people who need her. Was she with my T when he feel and hit his head? Just kidding, but really it just isn't right.
Okay, 2 weeks, is fine, but 3 MAYBE, but 5 weeks I feel is not responsible of her. I hope she has some kind of idea on what you are supposed to do for that long without her.
Maybe I will come and visit! We could have a babble party!
You know what I am getting pissed and sad about this and I am not even her client! She better hide her car!
Posted by muffled on November 9, 2006, at 12:51:21
In reply to Re: T vacation » muffled, posted by SatinDoll on November 9, 2006, at 12:38:46
> Okay 5 weeks is a very long time in any work field. I personally feel it is a little too much considering the work she is in and the people who need her. Was she with my T when he feel and hit his head? Just kidding, but really it just isn't right.
***ROFL!!!
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> Okay, 2 weeks, is fine, but 3 MAYBE, but 5 weeks I feel is not responsible of her. I hope she has some kind of idea on what you are supposed to do for that long without her.***;-) She has already given me huge advance warning. I know this is weighing heavily on her. She is setting up backup yes. But she needs to do this for herself, her marriage, for alot of reasons. She is smart to take care of herself and her relationship with her main support person(hubby). My T is very skilled. I am realizing this more all the time. I think her one flaw might be that she puts too much of herself into it, but again, maybe thats her greatest asset, and why I could come to trust her.
And so, to have this wonderful person, I know that this person must take care of herself too. And I care about her enough, and I trust her enough, that I not scared she gonna just leave me hanging. So I want her to go. For as long as she needs to. I WILL survive. And even if its hard, thats OK.
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> Maybe I will come and visit! We could have a babble party!***Well THAT would be nice. If I fall apart you have to come up!!!!!
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> You know what I am getting pissed and sad about this and I am not even her client! She better hide her car!***Yeah, if it gets bad I'll go sleep on top of her car!!!!Don't think I'll piss on it. Cuz I NOT angry. I am happy for her. HA! Its proly selfish. See, she'll come back and be a better T than ever!!!LOL!
You can always make me smile Satin.
I may need you then!!!
Muffled
Posted by Lindenblüte on November 9, 2006, at 13:18:09
In reply to Re: T vacation » SatinDoll, posted by muffled on November 9, 2006, at 12:51:21
Oooh! I wanna come too :)
Muffled, that's so lovely that you and T take walks together. I think it's important that you have a symbol of her presence, even in her absence.
I set up a special cozy corner where I sit when I have my telephone T sessions. I had a really bad argument with husband last week, and I was able to go back to the cozy corner and hide under the blanket. after about 10 minutes, my cat found me, and came to hide under the blanket WITH me.
I hope you and T can work on figuring out a nice safe cozy spot where you can feel close to her in her absence.
((((Muffled))))
you're right- a rested, refreshed T will probably be a better T.
We'll be here for you when you need us.
pathologically independent,
Li
Posted by Dinah on November 9, 2006, at 13:20:54
In reply to T vacation, posted by muffled on November 9, 2006, at 11:17:42
I started to answer you, but realized that not only was my experience overly negative, but the situation was a completely different one. My therapist was effectively gone for six weeks, and it was awful, but there were a whole lot of awful things going on at the time, so I'm relatively sure your experience won't be the same as mine.
I'd vote for a fill in therapist, if you can. It isn't the same, but it can be a powerful diversion. And sometimes it's good to get another viewpoint for a bit, especially if you can dismiss it once your therapist gets back.
Posted by Daisym on November 10, 2006, at 0:45:47
In reply to T vacation, posted by muffled on November 9, 2006, at 11:17:42
I write to my therapist every day or almost everyday and keep it for him while he is gone. I think 5 weeks is a very long time, so I think a sub is a good idea. It would be for support, not to work on stuff. And the connection would stay alive a little better, because your parts will remember therapy.
Finding a safe place to hide your letters is a great idea. I'm glad she told you ahead so you can get yourself ready.
And of course, we'll be here.
Hugs,
Daisy
Posted by Lindenblüte on November 10, 2006, at 7:55:47
In reply to Re: T vacation » muffled, posted by Daisym on November 10, 2006, at 0:45:47
Muffled, do you think you can meet with the sub once or twice in the month BEFORE your T goes on vacation?
That way if you need reassuring that you are liked, and welcome, and expected to see SubT, you can use your regular T to help you make that transition.
Just a thought.
Do you have a pdoc right now? that's the other way that I've gotten through long breaks, or even a break of 2 weeks (when I was feeling really crappy). I just sat down in pdocs office and blabbed my stuff. He has a friendly face, even though he wanted to hear more about how well I was sleeping, eating, working, feeling- I was comfortable enough to use that opportunity to talk about that week's challenges with a kind confidential professional.
hugs for you
your friend,
still feeling silly!
-Li
Posted by muffled on November 10, 2006, at 15:24:49
In reply to Re: T vacation » Daisym, posted by Lindenblüte on November 10, 2006, at 7:55:47
> Muffled, do you think you can meet with the sub once or twice in the month BEFORE your T goes on vacation?
**I expect my T will suggest that. :-(
Sigh. Maybe if you babblers say I should, and a couple HAVE, then mebbe I should. My first reaction was NO! I can take care of myself, been doing it for a LONG time, and I still here ain't I? Sigh.
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> That way if you need reassuring that you are liked, and welcome, and expected to see SubT, you can use your regular T to help you make that transition.**Yeah, don't give a flying f*ck if she likes me. Just so long as she never ever shows any revulsion of me. Yeah, just in case, guess it'd be good to have regular T around at first :-(
I feel like a freaking BABY is what I feel like. I feel like an incompetant idiot is what I feel like. My T worrying about my safety MONTHS away. I may be cured enough by then. I DON'T NEED HER. I can freaking live w/o her. Arrrrrrggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
I think I'm cranky. been real cranky for awhile. PMS? I hope.
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> Just a thought.**Good thots. If my T don't come up w/this stuff, then I will tell her.
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> Do you have a pdoc right now? that's the other way that I've gotten through long breaks, or even a break of 2 weeks (when I was feeling really crappy). I just sat down in pdocs office and blabbed my stuff. He has a friendly face, even though he wanted to hear more about how well I was sleeping, eating, working, feeling- I was comfortable enough to use that opportunity to talk about that week's challenges with a kind confidential professional.***I got a GP. She's real nice. Been my GP for years. Even visited me to check on me when I got sent away to the peanut factory. But she also ratted me out to T one time when I showed up at appt. for something else and my fist was smashed some, and she said can I bandage that, and i said no, its fine. She phoned my T w/o telling me. I think that was wrong of her. Fortunately, my t told me.
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> hugs for you**Thanks. Accepting ALL babble hugs!
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> your friend,
> still feeling silly!**WHY silly? Was it because I said.........gasp!.........suppositories!!!!
After you have spoken to your kid on the finer techniques, in GREAT detail, of not making a huge bloody mess when wiping their *sses, well, supoositories seem pretty tame.... LOL!!!!
Thank-you!
Take care Li,
Muffled
Posted by muffled on November 10, 2006, at 15:30:50
In reply to Re: T vacation » muffled, posted by Dinah on November 9, 2006, at 13:20:54
Thanks for holding back Dinah :-)
I have entered your opinion that I should see interim T into my brain.
I don't wanna, is what I screaming in my head :-(
Guess my T is right to bring it up so soon.
Thats where babble is good. Cuz I just kinda dismissed it, and would have proly until she left.
But babblers are setting me straight.
Babblers know where its at all right.
Still not too happy bout how incompetenat I apparently am.
But at least I got a good T.
And yes, I can dismiss this other therapist ;-)
But then my stupid head says.....fickle me....what if I like her better???????????????????Ah SH*T! I truly am my own worst enemy.
Thanks,
Muffled
Posted by muffled on November 10, 2006, at 15:35:46
In reply to Re: T vacation » muffled, posted by Daisym on November 10, 2006, at 0:45:47
> I write to my therapist every day or almost everyday and keep it for him while he is gone. I think 5 weeks is a very long time, so I think a sub is a good idea. It would be for support, not to work on stuff. And the connection would stay alive a little better, because your parts will remember therapy.
**Ahhh, another vote for sub :-(
Yeah SUPPORT ONLY. Ha! That I like. Yeah, guess you got some good points. I resist mightily. Guess my T knows me better than I realize? Sometimes I think she must not know me at all, cuz if she did, she would find me repulsive.
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> Finding a safe place to hide your letters is a great idea. I'm glad she told you ahead so you can get yourself ready.**Yeah. Get ready. SH*T.
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> And of course, we'll be here.***And thank God for that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
> Hugs,
> Daisy***And thanks for hugs. I like all my babble hugs.
Take care Daisy,
I liked your talisman post, that was SO cool.
Muffled
Posted by Lindenblüte on November 10, 2006, at 22:23:04
In reply to Re: T vacation, posted by muffled on November 10, 2006, at 15:35:46
Muffled- you're not weak or incompetent if you need to talk to someone while your T is away. Even if you spend the whole hour talking about how grumpy you are that you even agreed to show up, well, who cares?
Sorry your GP betrayed your confidence. That's not cool- knowing that GP is a good doctor, though, we'll have to give her the benefit of the doubt. She probably doesn't have as much experience with self-injury as doctors who are specialized to treat mental illness. The good news is that your T will be unavailable. ha! so- no immediate concerns about that.
You know we'll be here, and you can tell us if/when you have any issues that come up.
The reason why I say "silly" is because I was up WAY too late, I had a glass of wine earlier in the evening, and I was totally wired. Muffled was explaining options for getting my gut emptied. Li being full of sh*t, which is fairly unusual for me, but understandable, having recently increased my SNRI. Feeling uncomfortably bloated (and not just my ego either!), I wanted to whine a bit. Little did I know that muffled had such a variety of cures to suggest.
This Lindenblossom, who is a Southerner, is frankly shy about such things-- muffled, apparently, having practiced many times on her wee children, not so shy.
Lindenblossom would like you to know that she has shed a few petals in the meanwhile. Suppositories, laxatives, and enemas unnecessary (whew!)
and lemme see if I get this right- YOU, MUFFLED, are feeling resistant to gentle suggestions to consider seeing substitute T? and you think *I'm* silly for being shocked at your boldness?!? lol you're funny- crack me up everytime!
hugs for you. even more hugs. If you don't behave, I'm going to give you a gaseous tummy masssage, Miss Muffled! lol
:)
-Li
Posted by Lindenblüte on November 10, 2006, at 22:28:45
In reply to Re: T vacation, posted by muffled on November 10, 2006, at 15:35:46
Muffled- you're not weak or incompetent if you need to talk to someone while your T is away. Even if you spend the whole hour talking about how grumpy you are that you even agreed to show up, well, who cares?
Sorry your GP betrayed your confidence. That's not cool- knowing that GP is a good doctor, though, we'll have to give her the benefit of the doubt. She probably doesn't have as much experience with self-injury as doctors who are specialized to treat mental illness. The good news is that your T will be unavailable. ha! so- no immediate concerns about that.
You know we'll be here, and you can tell us if/when you have any issues that come up.
The reason why I say "silly" is because I was up WAY too late, I had a glass of wine earlier in the evening, and I was totally wired. Muffled was explaining options for getting my gut emptied. Li being full of sh*t, which is fairly unusual for me, but understandable, having recently increased my SNRI. Feeling uncomfortably bloated (and not just my ego either!), I wanted to whine a bit. Little did I know that muffled had such a variety of cures to suggest.
This Lindenblossom, who is a Southerner, is frankly shy about such things-- muffled, apparently, having practiced many times on her wee children, not so shy.
Lindenblossom would like you to know that she has shed a few petals in the meanwhile. Suppositories, laxatives, and enemas unnecessary (whew!)
and lemme see if I get this right- YOU, MUFFLED, are feeling resistant to gentle suggestions to consider seeing substitute T? and you think *I'm* silly for being shocked at your boldness?!? lol you're funny- crack me up everytime!
hugs for you. even more hugs. If you don't behave, I'm going to give you a gaseous tummy masssage, Miss Muffled! lol
:)
-Li
Posted by muffled on November 14, 2006, at 15:42:35
In reply to Re: T vacation » muffled, posted by Dinah on November 9, 2006, at 13:20:54
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