Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 684587

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I just don't get it...

Posted by muffled on September 9, 2006, at 20:50:18

Idon't.
I feel sooooooooooooo stupid, but I just can't seem to get it thru my head.
Its this business of attachment.
So I'll allow as I pretty much trust my T, as much as yu can trust any human being I suppose.
She really did go all out and worked hard to try and gain my trust.
This woman knows more bout me than anyone in the world.
And I reckon I ok with that.
But this is factual stuff.
Once it gets to emotions I not so sure....
I think in some ways I attached to my T, and others not. Part of me RAGES at the concept, part of me trembles in abject fear, part of me dances in anticipation, part of me wants to give my inside little ones what they so want, part of me says NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
And I'm not even sure what *it* is?
Whats the diff. btwn the way we are now, and when the kids get whatever the hell it is that they want?
I'm not sure what it is that would be different?
I think it would only put more pressure on everything?
But my inside kids want something SO bad.
So tons of serious internal conflict.
I'm gonna push past the protectors and let the kids have what they want.....whatever that is????
I AM SO CONFUSED?!
I dunno if this even makes aaany sense whatsoever???
Sigh.
Muffled

Re: I just don't get it...

Posted by sunnydays on September 9, 2006, at 21:18:48

In reply to I just don't get it..., posted by muffled on September 9, 2006, at 20:50:18

Yeah, it does. Attachment is soooooo hard. I'm struggling with it myself right now. I think giving the kids what they want might be alright, but remember the protector is there for a reason, so maybe waiting until the protector feels safe and is ready to step aside rather than trying to force it would make it a little easier? But I don't know, really. Maybe it wouldn't. Sorry I can't be more help. But I sympathize.

(((((((muffled))))))) (if you want hugs)

sunnydays

Re: I just don't get it... » muffled

Posted by finelinebob on September 10, 2006, at 0:30:53

In reply to I just don't get it..., posted by muffled on September 9, 2006, at 20:50:18

Something sunnydays said made a Who song jump out at me, so let me reword the first line a little and see if it makes any sense to you:

I don't mind my little kids dancing with my T
That's fine, I know them all pretty well
But I know sometimes I must get out in the light
Better leave her behind with the kids, they're alright
The kids are alright

Sometimes, I feel I gotta get away
Bells chime, I know I gotta get away
And I know if I don't, I'll go out of my mind
Better leave her behind with the kids, they're alright
The kids are alright

I know the song... » finelinebob

Posted by muffled on September 10, 2006, at 1:20:32

In reply to Re: I just don't get it... » muffled, posted by finelinebob on September 10, 2006, at 0:30:53

Interesting, very interesting,
let my kids be with the T, while I just bugger off elsewhere in my mind...hmmmm.
I will try that.
Dunno if I can do it though.
Very interesting....
Thanks FLBob
:-)
Glad you doing mostly ok.
Take care,
Muffled

Re: I just don't get it... » sunnydays

Posted by muffled on September 10, 2006, at 14:09:36

In reply to Re: I just don't get it..., posted by sunnydays on September 9, 2006, at 21:18:48

***I responded to your post Sunny, but I don't see it here on my computer?
So I'll try again, scuze me it I done it 2x.

> Yeah, it does. Attachment is soooooo hard. I'm struggling with it myself right now. I think giving the kids what they want might be alright, but remember the protector is there for a reason, so maybe waiting until the protector feels safe and is ready to step aside rather than trying to force it would make it a little easier? But I don't know, really. Maybe it wouldn't. Sorry I can't be more help. But I sympathize.
>
***Thanks so much Sunny, it sounds like you do get it :-(
I'm just tired of waiting for the protectors to back off......

Take care, good luck,
Muffled

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