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Posted by LegWarmers on March 14, 2006, at 21:33:32
are dreams somewhat true?
I had an awful dream, maybe it was a nightmare! Its been bugging me all day and now Im thinking, OMG its true!
Posted by LegWarmers on March 14, 2006, at 21:46:39
In reply to Dreams, posted by LegWarmers on March 14, 2006, at 21:33:32
Im a little panicked over this, that whole previous post whould have been caps! anyway I wrote this on social ... i had a dream that I sucked at being a mother! Im afraid to ask anyone who knows me... because Im afraid they will confirm my fear, that my dream is accurate!
Posted by Daisym on March 14, 2006, at 22:32:30
In reply to Nightmares, posted by LegWarmers on March 14, 2006, at 21:46:39
I think you should bring this up in therapy...
And I think dreams aren't always true, or maybe aren't even usually true. But I think they represent what we are trying to work out. It is likely that YOU are worried about not being a good mother and perhaps there is something that has happened, or not happened, that is making you feel that way. Did you fight with your child?
This is a subject I struggle with all the time. I think easy kids make their parents look good and more challenging kids make us look at ourselves and wonder what we are doing wrong. My therapist has pointed out, ever so gently, much to the deflation of my ego, that kids have lots of influences and what I do or don't do is only part of the equation. Especially as they get older.
I don't think any of us are perfect. But if we try our best and let our kids know we love them, I think they will turn out OK. Remember, you only have to be a "good enough" mother. :)
Posted by fairywings on March 14, 2006, at 23:24:18
In reply to Dreams, posted by LegWarmers on March 14, 2006, at 21:33:32
Hi LW,
I guess dreams are interpreted diff. ways, but I've read a lot about dreams and it's my understanding that things in your dreams are just representations of things in you, or things in your life. I"m not good at all at interpreting dreams, but it sounds to me like maybe you had mother figures who didn't live up to your expectations, or maybe you really want to be a mom, and the things in your dream represent what you fear will hold you back?
I know you'll be a great mom, bec. you're great with kids, and you love kids! ; ) I'd let you borrow mine to try it out! I hope you'll bring it up with your pdoc, and see how he interprets it.
fw
Posted by LegWarmers on March 15, 2006, at 0:21:39
In reply to Re: Nightmares » LegWarmers, posted by Daisym on March 14, 2006, at 22:32:30
> I think you should bring this up in therapy...
Im going to, the dream was eeerily real, I was married with the most horribly behaved children and I didn't manage that well lol
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> And I think dreams aren't always true, or maybe aren't even usually true. But I think they represent what we are trying to work out. It is likely that YOU are worried about not being a good mother and perhaps there is something that has happened, or not happened, that is making you feel that way. Did you fight with your child?I overreacted to having goop put in my hair by my firends kid, it was awful, the sticky goop I mean. where does all that finger stickiness come from anyway lol But there have been numerous times like that, are you just supposed to say, sure put what ever you want in my hair? OR here would you like to rip the heels off my shoes for fun? You know?
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> This is a subject I struggle with all the time. I think easy kids make their parents look good and more challenging kids make us look at ourselves and wonder what we are doing wrong. My therapist has pointed out, ever so gently, much to the deflation of my ego, that kids have lots of influences and what I do or don't do is only part of the equation. Especially as they get older.thats really interesting, I have never thought about children that way, but you are absolutely right! Difficult children would really get a parent to question themselves, it is a lot about diffivult and easy.
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> I don't think any of us are perfect. But if we try our best and let our kids know we love them, I think they will turn out OK. Remember, you only have to be a "good enough" mother. :)Thanks daisy!
Posted by LegWarmers on March 15, 2006, at 0:25:24
In reply to Re: Dreams » LegWarmers, posted by fairywings on March 14, 2006, at 23:24:18
> Hi LW,
>
> I guess dreams are interpreted diff. ways, but I've read a lot about dreams and it's my understanding that things in your dreams are just representations of things in you, or things in your life. I"m not good at all at interpreting dreams, but it sounds to me like maybe you had mother figures who didn't live up to your expectations, or maybe you really want to be a mom, and the things in your dream represent what you fear will hold you back?hm.. that makes sense
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> I know you'll be a great mom, bec. you're great with kids, and you love kids! ; ) I'd let you borrow mine to try it out! I hope you'll bring it up with your pdoc, and see how he interprets it.
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> fwaww thanks! I will for sure be talking about this in therapy. that was a scary night lol
dream or real! ; )
Posted by gardenergirl on March 15, 2006, at 14:56:00
In reply to Re: Dreams » fairywings, posted by LegWarmers on March 15, 2006, at 0:25:24
I agree, it sounds like a perfectly normal anxiety dream. But I really hate when they are so vivid or evoke strong emotions so that they stay with you for a long time after you wake up.
Keep repeating, "It was just a dream. It was just a dream." :)
Take care,
gg
Posted by LegWarmers on March 16, 2006, at 14:38:04
In reply to Re: Dreams » LegWarmers, posted by gardenergirl on March 15, 2006, at 14:56:00
> I agree, it sounds like a perfectly normal anxiety dream. But I really hate when they are so vivid or evoke strong emotions so that they stay with you for a long time after you wake up.
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> Keep repeating, "It was just a dream. It was just a dream." :)
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> Take care,
> ggThanks, yeah those real dreams are so real!
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