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Posted by gardenergirl on September 26, 2005, at 22:15:31
Missing you.
And Dinah, too.
And a whole lot more I could mention, but my head hurts, so I likely would miss too many.
Sending warm thoughts out to y'all.
gg
Posted by All Done on September 26, 2005, at 22:22:45
In reply to Daisy?, posted by gardenergirl on September 26, 2005, at 22:15:31
Posted by messadivoce on September 27, 2005, at 0:27:31
In reply to Daisy?, posted by gardenergirl on September 26, 2005, at 22:15:31
Come back soon!! Until then, good vibes headed your way.
Posted by Annierose on September 27, 2005, at 5:01:42
In reply to Daisy and Dinah, posted by messadivoce on September 27, 2005, at 0:27:31
Thinking the same thoughts y'all. I surely miss their input, thoughts and posts.
Hope Dinah finds her home safe and sound AND with running water, electricity, an open grocery store, Starbucks near by, neighbors to chat with, an open school system, a job and so much more.
Hope Daisy is back on track with her T and sending her son off to college a success.
Posted by Tamar on September 27, 2005, at 6:27:56
In reply to Daisy and Dinah, posted by messadivoce on September 27, 2005, at 0:27:31
Yeah, I'm missing Daisy and Dinah too.
Hope you're both doing well.
Tamar
Posted by fairywings on September 27, 2005, at 12:53:05
In reply to Re: Daisy and Dinah, posted by Tamar on September 27, 2005, at 6:27:56
Posted by daisym on September 28, 2005, at 0:49:50
In reply to Daisy?, posted by gardenergirl on September 26, 2005, at 22:15:31
Life is Hard so I haven't had much to say here. I wish I could be more supportive. The house is so quiet, I should have lots of time to post. Instead I just seem to sit.
I'm sorry, I don't mean to come back and whine. I'm struggling on so many fronts, especially at work. There are hours and days that I just don't think I can face up to anymore of the stress. If I can't save the company, I wish it would just go down quickly. Or maybe I'm just wishing that I could go down quickly.
We had a rocky restart to therapy. I told him that I did fine while he was gone so perhaps this is the right time to cut back. He was frustrated and said that even though he expected this reaction on my part, he wished he knew how to help me not go to that isolated, lonely place. He asked me if I had felt in parts and pieces while he was gone...did any part of me miss him? Well, of course, but still I wondered how I was ever going to be able to separate from him if I didn't pull back now? He is giving me space, but not too much, I can tell he is worried about all the stuff I have going on. There were good parts of the session too.
I've felt needy all day -- wanting to just be in the safety of his office. I knew this was going to happened as soon as I saw him. I need to tell him that part of the pull back is this twisted theory that if I do decide I can't take anymore, I want to protect him some how from feeling like he should have known. Don't worry -- I'm not there yet. I've just been examing my motives for wanting to pull away and there are several strands to it.
I did ask if it was hard for him to come back to work. He said no, he had a great time but he was glad to be back and he missed me. I made a sarcastic comment but gosh it was nice to hear. I'm such a sap.
Thanks for checking on me.
Daisy
Posted by Annierose on September 28, 2005, at 6:12:25
In reply to Re: Daisy?, posted by daisym on September 28, 2005, at 0:49:50
Daisy -
I'm so glad you posted. Instead of actually cutting back your sessions right now, because it's always a possibility at any point during treatment (for lack of a better word this early in the morning), can you try just talking about why instead? You mentioned a part of you is worried about seperation (I worry about that myself too in my therapy). But you're not there yet. You're getting ahead of yourself. He'll help you seperate when that time comes. Right now, you are in the thick of things, and your vision is cloudy from all the weeds, brush and rocks along the path. Your T will guide you through this part of the journey, making sure if you stumble, he'll help you back up.
Trust this process. Trust your T, he is so special.
Life always harder when our day to day job is also so frustrating, afterall we spend more time at work than at home. I wish agencies like yours, that help children, would be rich in cash flow. Unfortunately, we live in a society that spends half our budget on military expenses ... but I'll save that rant for the political board.
Sending supportive hugs your way!
Annie
Posted by orchid on September 28, 2005, at 18:22:37
In reply to Re: Daisy?, posted by daisym on September 28, 2005, at 0:49:50
Hi Daisy,
I am sorry to hear about your work. I know it can be extremely hard to focus on work when you have other mental stressors.
I know you do some business related to children's well being, but not sure what exactly it is. But maybe there are ways to save your business and reduce your stress - together? If you can't do everything yourself, perhaps you can hire a consultant or manager? That might ease you off the stress and perhaps even turn the business around. You can do some other cost cutting measures - like moving to a less expensive part of the city, or moving to less luxury area for the business, cutting back on the travel and accommodation that you provide for the staff and do the work through phones. These are some general ideas, but maybe if you think more on how to cut costs, some relevant idea might come to your mind.
I know you are going through intense pain about your past childhood issues as well as your attachment to your therapist. I don't have a solid idea of whether cutting back sessions would be good or increasing would be good. Also different therapists view attachment differently. Mine never encouraged any attachment whatsoever. Your's seem to encourage it a lot. And I don't know which is the best approach. Maybe ask your therapist what he would suggest so that while you get better in the long term, if he can think of something to ease your pain in the short term as well. Getting better in the long term is definitely good, and might be worth going through a little more pain in the short term, but I know you have been going through intense pain for atleast 2 years now, and recently, your romantic attachment to your therapist is making it worse. And I think it might take a couple of years more atleast to maybe fully heal. So if your therapist can think of a way to help you cope with day to day life for now, in addition to helping you work on your long term issues, maybe it will be helpful.
Take Care
Orchid.
Posted by antigua on September 28, 2005, at 20:30:05
In reply to Re: Daisy?, posted by daisym on September 28, 2005, at 0:49:50
I know it's hard and I'm sending warm chocolate chip cookies your way.
How's your youngest son doing being the only one at home? Did you get #2 safely at school? Is he o.k.? We are in the throes of college apps and while my son is being pretty good about it, it's still stressful. I try not to think about how much I will miss him when he goes (his little brother is already crying over it!)
Take care, and I'm thinking about you,
antigua
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