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Posted by happyflower on August 9, 2005, at 15:16:36
If you are feeling really good and living life, and have worked out a lot of past issues , are you done? How do you know you are okay?
My T says he won't push to terminate me, until I think I am ready. He trusts that I will let him know that I am ready. How do you know when you are ready? I mean, you will always have problems to work through, life is never perfect and sh#t happens.
I am just scared because I thought I was okay and then wammo my mom caused me to have PTSD. Now the syptoms are over with and I am working on past and present issues. My T assured me that I was okay before the PTSD, he said a lot of people are a lot worse off then I was. He said I was living a pretty normal life except for shutting myself off from people because of trust issues. I just don't know if I can trust myself to know that I am okay.The EMDR has helped a lot, and I am doing so much better, like a flower opening up for the first time. In fact with the exception of my unhappy marriage, my life is so much better and happier than ever before. What are your thoughts? I have been in therapy since this Jan.
Posted by orchid on August 9, 2005, at 15:21:07
In reply to How do you know you are done with therapy?, posted by happyflower on August 9, 2005, at 15:16:36
Didn't you say you had a happy marriage when you first started posting in this board?
As for as me, it is really upto you to decide whether to continue therapy or not. If you think you are benefitting from it, and can afford it, why not continue?
Posted by happyflower on August 9, 2005, at 15:28:02
In reply to Re: How do you know you are done with therapy? » happyflower, posted by orchid on August 9, 2005, at 15:21:07
Yes, I thought I had a happy marriage before therapy started but I guess when I got all the past problems mostly delt with, it opened my eyes to present.
Then my DH has this women chasing after him at work. They were friends and he was supporting her during her breast cancer, but then she fell in love with him and started coming on to him on a business trip. He said nothing happend, but yet our marriage hasn't been the same and I think he has conflicting feelings for her too. He won't do couples therapy with me and doesn't seem to want to be spend time with me and is distant. This topic seems to be mostly what me and my T are talking about lately. It is hard to work on your marriage when you are the only one doing the work.
Posted by happyflower on August 9, 2005, at 15:37:48
In reply to Re: How do you know you are done with therapy? » happyflower, posted by orchid on August 9, 2005, at 15:21:07
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> As for as me, it is really upto you to decide whether to continue therapy or not. If you think you are benefitting from it, and can afford it, why not continue?I am sure I could benfit from learning from him forever, he is a very good T, but there has to be a point where you feel like you can fly on your own. I don't want to depend on my T forever to help me, I want to help myself.
Money is a not a big issue, but it is getting expenisive at $90 bucks a session. I am going every 10-14 days.
Don't get me wrong, I would love to spend time with my T, he is a great comfort to me, but isn't there only so much they can do for you if you are doing much better. I don't know, this is the first I was thinking about this, that maybe I am okay, and I don't need him as much anymore.
Posted by orchid on August 9, 2005, at 15:39:44
In reply to Re: How do you know you are done with therapy? » orchid, posted by happyflower on August 9, 2005, at 15:37:48
Yes, if you feel you are allright and you don't need it much, you can take a break. You can always go back for more later if needed.
Posted by Declan on August 11, 2005, at 0:11:30
In reply to Re: How do you know you are done with therapy? » happyflower, posted by orchid on August 9, 2005, at 15:39:44
I might have got bored with myself, I dunno eventually I talked about politics and history all the time while my T interpreted as you would expect. I started to feel that I was wasting her time and mine. But it wasn't like there was resolution. I still wanted extratherapeutic regard, that never changed. There was no natural limit to it. 15 years, 5 hours a week. What did it amount to? I'm not too sure. I survived though.
Declan
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