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Posted by happyflower on May 31, 2005, at 17:55:16
Yes, I made it without totally turning red in the face, thanks to all of you! lol The powers of suggestions,wow! lol I mentioned I felt embarrast that I called him 2 times last week. He said I only requested him to call him back once, he didn't see it as such a big deal, so I guess I won't worry about it.
We got a lot done today, I am happy about that, he was really focused today and had a lot to say. We basically talked about how I can be less critical and how to make friends and not put my foot in my mouth. He talked about how I can practice my people skills with him because he will be honest with me and in real life, he couldn't be totally honest with me if we were friends.
He also made a good point about my past abuse. I am getting over the bad things my parents did, but I am still affected by the good things I didn't get from them. Like learning how to deal with people. So I have resocialize myself the correct way. Yikes, how long is this going to take?
I guess overall I am happy today on how things went, and NO I didn't talk about my fantasies because they have changed a long time ago.
The only thing that sort of freaks me out is if he is reading these boards. He told me today that he supervisers younger T's and what if they said they reconized on what I have written about him? The things I have written about him and his office, would be a big give away. I was going to ask him, but got distracted. He mentioned about how internet friendships are different, and how you can be a little more bold than IRL. So I hope he didn't read what I wrote especailly about the sexual attraction. I guess he would understand, but I would die of embarrasment.
Posted by Tamar on May 31, 2005, at 19:09:41
In reply to Back from therapy today, posted by happyflower on May 31, 2005, at 17:55:16
> Yes, I made it without totally turning red in the face, thanks to all of you! lol The powers of suggestions,wow! lol I mentioned I felt embarrast that I called him 2 times last week. He said I only requested him to call him back once, he didn't see it as such a big deal, so I guess I won't worry about it.
> We got a lot done today, I am happy about that, he was really focused today and had a lot to say. We basically talked about how I can be less critical and how to make friends and not put my foot in my mouth. He talked about how I can practice my people skills with him because he will be honest with me and in real life, he couldn't be totally honest with me if we were friends.
> He also made a good point about my past abuse. I am getting over the bad things my parents did, but I am still affected by the good things I didn't get from them. Like learning how to deal with people. So I have resocialize myself the correct way. Yikes, how long is this going to take?
> I guess overall I am happy today on how things went, and NO I didn't talk about my fantasies because they have changed a long time ago.
> The only thing that sort of freaks me out is if he is reading these boards. He told me today that he supervisers younger T's and what if they said they reconized on what I have written about him? The things I have written about him and his office, would be a big give away. I was going to ask him, but got distracted. He mentioned about how internet friendships are different, and how you can be a little more bold than IRL. So I hope he didn't read what I wrote especailly about the sexual attraction. I guess he would understand, but I would die of embarrasment.I'm glad it went well and that you didn't get red in the face!
I would bet my house that your T doesn't read this board, and neither do his younger colleagues. Sadly, most Ts seem to take insufficient interest in what we clients write about therapy.
But tell me the truth (only if you want to): is there a tiny part of you that hopes he does read it? Or am I alone in my perverse little fantasy that my ex T might actually notice me here?
Posted by happyflower on May 31, 2005, at 19:26:12
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » happyflower, posted by Tamar on May 31, 2005, at 19:09:41
>> But tell me the truth (only if you want to): is there a tiny part of you that hopes he does read it? Or am I alone in my perverse little fantasy that my ex T might actually notice me here?
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Nope, it is your little peerverse fantasy! lol I would hate to give up my support here in fear of him reading what I say about him and not being able to be free with my words. I would be totally embarassed! lol
Posted by Dinah on May 31, 2005, at 19:27:55
In reply to Back from therapy today, posted by happyflower on May 31, 2005, at 17:55:16
I doubt he reads, and I doubt even if he did he'd know for sure. I think you can post without worry.
I'm glad you had a good session. I need you to sit close to me before Monday so good session luck will rub off. Mine was unspectacular.
Posted by happyflower on May 31, 2005, at 19:37:58
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » happyflower, posted by Dinah on May 31, 2005, at 19:27:55
I hope you have a great next session! I have to wait 2 weeks again and then another 2 weeks after that. He is going on vacation for a week so I don't get to see him weekly all this month, so expect to see me here a lot! lol
Posted by Tamar on May 31, 2005, at 20:03:18
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » Tamar, posted by happyflower on May 31, 2005, at 19:26:12
> >> But tell me the truth (only if you want to): is there a tiny part of you that hopes he does read it? Or am I alone in my perverse little fantasy that my ex T might actually notice me here?
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> Nope, it is your little peerverse fantasy! lol I would hate to give up my support here in fear of him reading what I say about him and not being able to be free with my words. I would be totally embarassed! lol
>Oh no! I'm a freak! But yeah, I know what you mean. It's nice to feel able to be completely free to say anything at all. Funny that it's hard to feel so uninhibited in therapy, where we should be free to say anything!
I suppose I'm just so convinced Ts don't read here that I'd be wildly flattered if my ex-T (a) came here and (b) actually recognised me. Not a chance, though...
Posted by Jazzed on May 31, 2005, at 20:26:10
In reply to Back from therapy today, posted by happyflower on May 31, 2005, at 17:55:16
> He also made a good point about my past abuse. I am getting over the bad things my parents did, but I am still affected by the good things I didn't get from them. Like learning how to deal with people. So I have resocialize myself the correct way. Yikes, how long is this going to take?
I am so glad that you had such a good session, and that you didn't feel weird because of what we've talked about here. LOL I didn't really think you would. When you're "into it" in therapy, I don't really think your mind is anywhere else.My parents didn't give me the good stuff either, and I'm way behind you, so I'll take even longer. Does that make you feel any better? I guess we just have to try to give the good stuff to our kids. I have trouble with that sometimes because our youngest has so many problems with aggression, and I have so much trouble dealing with that.
I don't think many T's would take time to read these boards, unless they really don't have a life, which is doubtful. So, we have little to worry about, I'm sure.
(((((((((Hugs))))))))))
Jazzy
Posted by daisym on May 31, 2005, at 23:53:23
In reply to Back from therapy today, posted by happyflower on May 31, 2005, at 17:55:16
I'm glad you didn't get red faced.
Early on in my therapy there was a thread similar to this, only it was things WE did that were embarressing. One of our posters -- KK-- talked about one of her stockings dropping down in front of her therapist. She just asked him to turn around while she reattached it. She was really sassy and somehow all of this led to me telling her that I walk in front of my therapist, upstairs to get to his office. She said if it was her, she would "shake her thing" all the way up the stairs so he could have a good look. The next time I went up those stairs, all I could think about was what she said and I had to stifle a giggle. And no way was I telling him! I think about her now and then, especially when I'm in a short skirt.
Babble certainly stays with you. :)
Posted by Shortelise on June 1, 2005, at 0:19:59
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » happyflower, posted by daisym on May 31, 2005, at 23:53:23
Hmm...
You might find it interesting that the only place I know of where it is proper for the man to go first is up stairs. Exactly because it's not acceptable for a man to be nose to ahem with a lady.
Posted by Jazzed on June 1, 2005, at 9:30:51
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » daisym, posted by Shortelise on June 1, 2005, at 0:19:59
> Hmm...
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> You might find it interesting that the only place I know of where it is proper for the man to go first is up stairs. Exactly because it's not acceptable for a man to be nose to ahem with a lady.Do all Ts walk behind us? Why? It makes me a bit uncomfortable. Thank goodness I don't have to do steps!
Jazzed
Posted by JenStar on June 1, 2005, at 9:37:19
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » happyflower, posted by Tamar on May 31, 2005, at 20:03:18
I think if I were a T, I would not read this or similar boards in the attempt to "spy out" my clients. I might read them from time to time to learn, see how people interact, or even just for my OWN support. But I'd prefer to find out stuff about my clients from them, because otherwise it wouldn't be authentic therapy. And if I did somehow discover that my client was posting here, I think I'd talk to them and let them know that I know, and see how they felt about it.
Does your T know about this place (from posts that you've printed, etc.) Do you think your T's do come here (or similar boards) to read?
JenStar
Posted by JenStar on June 1, 2005, at 9:39:34
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today, posted by Jazzed on June 1, 2005, at 9:30:51
interesting observation about the stairs! :)
Another place a man should go first is a taxi. That way the lady doesn't have to slide across the seat in a skirt or dress, getting uncomfortable & disorganized in the process. Anyone had experience with this? (Sometimes I used to ask guys to go in first if they didn't offer!)JenStar
Posted by happyflower on June 1, 2005, at 10:25:15
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » Tamar, posted by JenStar on June 1, 2005, at 9:37:19
Well he suppervises other young T's, if they happen to run across some of my posts, they would know who I was talking about. Like discribing his office and stuff. And if my T did come to this site, he could very easily spot me by what I have said happened in therapy and my life story that I have shared, and oh ya, the poems that I have posted, he knows my poems. I think he would come here out of curiosity if another T thought one of his clients were talking about him on the boards. But I don't think he would spy on me, but he would interested in what I say about him. I don't know, I guess since I post what I feel, then what can he say? I think I am going to ask him when I see him in 2 weeks, but he might not tell me the truth either.
Posted by JenStar on June 1, 2005, at 10:40:39
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » JenStar, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2005, at 10:25:15
I think you're brave to ask him! Hopefully he'll tell you the truth. If he or his associates DO read the site, I would see that as a mark of distinction. You're so interesting that they spend their spare time and personal time reading about you & your friends here at Babble! I think that's pretty cool, really, don't you? I mean, we all write our feelings and experiences here....but other people actually take the time to READ it all. That means we must be interesting and worth reading about! :)
JenStar
Posted by Tamar on June 1, 2005, at 12:46:12
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » Tamar, posted by JenStar on June 1, 2005, at 9:37:19
> Does your T know about this place (from posts that you've printed, etc.) Do you think your T's do come here (or similar boards) to read?I never told my T about Babble - not because I was keeping it secret, but because it just didn't happen to come up. If we hadn't terminated when we did, I'm pretty sure I would have told him at some point.
I'm pretty certain he would never come here. It seems therapists aren't as interested as they probably ought to be in how clients talk about their experience of therapy.
I wouldn't feel he was spying on me if he came here, but I would prefer it if he told me (especially if he thought he'd identified me!). I think he could probably identify me quite easily, but it doesn't worry me. Sure, I've said things about him here that I've never said to his face, but he's a big boy. He can take it. And I wouldn't be particularly embarrassed because I wouldn't have to look him in the eye!
I suppose my joke about my secret wish that he would read here is really about a secret wish to continue our relationship.
Posted by happyflower on June 1, 2005, at 13:14:14
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » JenStar, posted by Tamar on June 1, 2005, at 12:46:12
I think the fact that this site is one of the biggest sites for this, it would be great learning for new T's to read about the other side. The fact is that we DO have T's here, I don't think it would be out of the question that they are some spying on us and writing reports on us crazy babblers! lol I don't think my T thinks I am interesting, but I bet if any T hears that one of their clients are writing about them, they do have big egos and would want to know what we think about them and our therapy. They are only ALMOST human! lol :)
Posted by Poet on June 1, 2005, at 19:22:33
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2005, at 13:14:14
Hi Happyflower,
If my T is spying on me, she's actually learning the things I'm too afraid to tell her. Which is good, but I don't want her to know what I say about her. Then again...
Poet
Posted by Jazzed on June 1, 2005, at 22:15:24
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2005, at 13:14:14
> I think the fact that this site is one of the biggest sites for this, it would be great learning for new T's to read about the other side. The fact is that we DO have T's here, I don't think it would be out of the question that they are some spying on us and writing reports on us crazy babblers! lol I don't think my T thinks I am interesting, but I bet if any T hears that one of their clients are writing about them, they do have big egos and would want to know what we think about them and our therapy. They are only ALMOST human! lol :)
I think I'll change my "handle" just in case, it's too close to reality! I'll let you know if I do!
Jazzed
Posted by pinkeye on June 5, 2005, at 16:35:38
In reply to Re: Back from therapy today » JenStar, posted by Tamar on June 1, 2005, at 12:46:12
I also have that wish.. That somehow I want to continue the relationship. But I guess it will have to just remain as a fantasy like other fantasies. I think I would be very happy if he read this board - for one he can see how I have grown from therapy with him. But he might also get to see how much I hurt over him, and I am not sure how I feel about that.. I think it would be ok for me. THere is nothing that I wish to hide from him anyway.
>>I suppose my joke about my secret wish that he would read here is really about a secret wish to continue our relationship.
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