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mothers and the daughters they hate

Posted by rainbowbrite on May 12, 2005, at 7:39:04

I am just curious if anyone thinks it is possible to heal relationships with mothers.
My mother and I do not get along, in fact I think she hates me. There are times she will say that we have a good relationship but I am steaming inside thinking What?? beacaue I dont feel it, it must take 2 to make it good??
she has always explained her behavior towards me as a result of me being to confrontational and my personality too strong for her. But my whole family has a strong personality so I dont buy it. She acknowledges treating me different and says that we just clash (since I was a kid?!?). I know the reasons are deeper than I want to get into here but still I dont understand how a parent can so blatently dislike one of thier chilren.
basically she took her frustation out on me as I was growing up...I dont let this get to me , I understand personalities are differnet and I dont need her and dont usually care, I just realized since mothers day just passed that I want to have a good and real relationship with her as opposed to a fake one. I am deeply hurt that I cant have what my siblings have or appear to with her.
Another thing that puzzles me is why her presence can often make me so incredibly angry, very angry! A side of me I dont like at times comes out when Im with her. So has anyone repaired a relationship where it is ok? Should I have hope? She is impossible to talk to about anything. Any suggestions as to how to approach this? Im not sure she evens cares

Thanks

Redirect: mothers and daughters

Posted by Dr. Bob on May 13, 2005, at 0:11:25

In reply to mothers and the daughters they hate, posted by rainbowbrite on May 12, 2005, at 7:39:04

> I am just curious if anyone thinks it is possible to heal relationships with mothers...

Sorry to interrupt, but I'd like to redirect this thread to Psycho-Babble Relationships. Here's a link:

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/relate/20050505/msgs/497162.html

Thanks,

Bob

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