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Posted by shrinking violet on March 19, 2005, at 17:59:09
In reply to (((((violet))))) (nm), posted by Shortelise on March 19, 2005, at 0:25:55
Posted by shrinking violet on March 19, 2005, at 18:04:11
In reply to (((((SV))))) (nm), posted by gardenergirl on March 18, 2005, at 20:02:51
Thank you GG.....Since you're sort of on both sides of the fence, having experience as both a client and a therapist, I'd be open to hearing whether you have any opinions, insights, thoughts on my T or/and my situation or time with her. Up to you, of course, if you want to share, either here or in babblemail, or not at all. :-) Given some of my doubts about this whole experience with her, and from what others have told me, here and otherwise, it would be interesting to hear another T's perspective on my T's conduct.....But, again, no pressure at all...I just thought I'd throw the option out there for you.
Thanks for the hug, I appreciate it!
SV
Posted by shrinking violet on March 19, 2005, at 18:12:57
In reply to Re: not well » shrinking violet, posted by Poet on March 19, 2005, at 12:15:18
>> Talk about pressure. You are under this pressure, and that has to be so difficult, especially when like me, you stare at your shoes more than you talk. The last session my T said "should we just stare at each other in silence for the next 20 minutes?" I said I wanted to leave, but didn't. I think I understand why you did. You probably felt you were just wasting her time. My T says what little I say is never a waste, yours would say the same, it's believing it that is hard. Too hard sometimes.
--Thank you Poet. Yes, that is probably part of it.....that I've wasted all of this time not talking, and now that the end is near and I'm STILL not engaging much with her (actually less, if that's even possible) I think we both feel this pressure and it's very difficult. I left because my T told me to.....I wanted to, yes, and it wouldn't have been the first time I've gotten up and left during a session, but maybe some part of me still held out some hope that she would say the "right" thing, or that I would be able to bring down my defenses long enough to at least tell her why I was so angry with her....but neither of those things happened, and she was clearly distant and frustrated, to say the least, so she asked me whether I wanted to see her every week or every two. I told her I didn't know...Her questions were irritating me at that point b/c I didn't want to talk to her at all, didn't want to even hear her voice, so at first I tried ignoring it. And I didn't know the answer. Finally she said if I answered her I could leave. I told her I didn't know. She said, oh I thought you would know the answer to that one right away. Then she said when I figured it out to call the center, and to think about whether I wanted to finish the semester with her or the director, then she said I could go. So I left. :-(
>> I told my T I would mail her my notes (I've brought them to the last two sessions, but wouldn't read them.) I am going to try to do it today. Drop them in the mail box and then I can't retrieve them or destroy them.--Good for you Poet! Have you sent them yet? I hope you do...Let me know if I can do anything to help.
>> Try not to be afraid of what you wrote to your T. Be proud that you had the courage to send it.--Thanks, but....I admit I am very afraid now. I wrote a lot.....and I'm not sure how she's going to take it. I have a bad feeling that she's going to tell me she can't see me anymore or, worse, I'll hear it from someone else, or a letter in the mail. She isn't back to work until Tuesday, since it's the weekend and she has Mondays off, so...I have quite a wait, and even then there's nothing to say she'll respond that day anyway, if at all. So, yeah, I'm scared. Every time I try to reach out to her, tell her how I feel, it get rebuked for it in some way, so I'm afraid....I just wish I knew what she was thinking.
Thanks for the support. :-)
Peace,
SV
Posted by shrinking violet on March 19, 2005, at 18:14:13
In reply to Re: not well, posted by annierose on March 19, 2005, at 7:29:19
> I agree with Susan. I think it's good that you opened your heart and told her why going to therapy is so difficult, that you're really afraid of losing her when you graduate. Let us know how she responds.
Thank you.....IF she responds. :-/ I'm scared either way. But I guess it's better than not saying anything at all and having her wonder and having this big rift between us....I don't know, I'm still afraid of her reaction. Thank you for your thoughts.Peace,
SV
Posted by shrinking violet on March 19, 2005, at 18:20:35
In reply to How are you today? » shrinking violet, posted by Shortelise on March 19, 2005, at 12:44:48
Well, in her defense, she did ask me if being angry with her is the only way I can say goodbye to her, the way I have with other relationships in the past. However, with my other relationships, the other person would leave without my knowledge and the anger would come later in response to the hurt I felt. With her, I know beforehand that my time with her is going to end, but I guess I'm still using the anger to deal with the pain, so I do think she is aware of it at least a little. The thing is, even though she may understand it logically, she seems to react to it emotionally and take it personally. I'm not really sure why.....she must have her own issues with anger, although she has told me that other clients have been angry with her and it's part of the process sometimes. But maybe since I'm angry with her quite a lot, and never seem to move past it, maybe she's reacting to that.....She also said that she thinks I want her to feel like she's failed me, that I want her to take all of the responsibility for this relationship....I was pretty taken aback by that, that she would actually think I would want her to feel that way. I addressed this in the letter to her also, but, just the fact that she thinks that says a lot about how she may perceive me, and how she also might be resentful of the fact that I caused her to question her competencies as a clinician. I don't know.....
I hate that I'm messing this up so much, though.....I so wish I could be different. :-(
Thank you,
SV> Violet, I have to say that I think your T is missing the boat here a little.
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> We re-enact things with our T's. You could be doing that, and I don't see how she could be missing it.
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> Hugs
> ShortE
Posted by gardenergirl on March 19, 2005, at 18:43:39
In reply to Re: How are you today? » Shortelise, posted by shrinking violet on March 19, 2005, at 18:20:35
Hi SV,
I'm thinking back to much earlier posts when you two were getting on well. So well, in fact, that it seemed as if you two were going to wind up friends. I know at the time I was concerned about your T's boundaries at the time. I was concerned that she was too emotionally attached to you and she was letting it show to you too much. I wondered about the quality of the supervision she was getting. Please correct me if my memory of your earlier experience with her is not accurate. Because my perception now is colored by that.
> Well, in her defense, she did ask me if being angry with her is the only way I can say goodbye to her, the way I have with other relationships in the past. ... With her, I know beforehand that my time with her is going to end, ...The thing is, even though she may understand it logically, she seems to react to it emotionally and take it personally.It does seem like this is going on. She seems to be just as frustrated as you are. I think that what should be really happening is that your t should be working through this with you, helping you to undertand this pattern. Instead, she's feeding it in a way. She's giving you ultimatums, such as well, come back when you are ready to talk to me, and well, it's me or the boss, which I'm sure is oh so appealing to you. It's kind of like saying "you're in trouble, missy." At least that is how it sounds to me. I'm thinking of my own T, who responded to my no-showing about a month ago by gently asking me why I might be angry with him. It was very non-threatening. It was an invitation to explore it with him, versus a challenge or a pout kind of thing. That's what I wish I was seeing from your T.
>But maybe since I'm angry with her quite a lot, and never seem to move past it, maybe she's reacting to that.....
It could be. She may be quite frustrated at what she perceives as your lack of movement. I wonder if you two are on the same page as to what the goal of therapy is? I mean really and truly. I am thinking of another client I had with anorexia who really was ambivalent about change. She could say all the right things, but her body language and her behaviors suggested that she really wasn't ready to actively fight this. So what we really needed to work on was the ambivalence first. No sense us working on strategies for changing eating behaviors if she was not committed to them. First we needed to get the committment. I dont' know if that relates to your situation at all, but where someone is on the continuum of stages of change is really important. And if the T and the client are working from different stages, it's not at all effective, and leads to much frustration.
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> She also said that she thinks I want her to feel like she's failed me, that I want her to take all of the responsibility for this relationship....This could be some projection and counter-transference on her part. It could be that she feels like a failure for the relationship since it appears to have deteriorated. I'm glad you addressed that in your letter.
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> I hate that I'm messing this up so much, though.....I so wish I could be different.I can imagine that is an awful feeling. I hope you are sharing that with her as well. Because you two are supposed to be partners on this journey. So it's not either one's fault completely. Whatever has happened, it's happened to and from both of you. Is there any chance you could get a consult from another clinician at the site or from her supervisor? It may help you two sort this out in time for some resolution before your time is up.
I do hope things improve. If you want more info. on the stages of change please let me know. I'd be glad to babblemail them to you. The theory is from Prochaska. She may already be familiar with him. I find it a very useful way of looking at things when it seems like therapy is not moving forward. It's a safe way of looking at it that doesn't focus so much on the relationship, which can be very loaded with emotion and confusion.
Take care, sweetie.
gg
Posted by LG04 on March 20, 2005, at 13:12:54
In reply to Re: How are you today? » shrinking violet, posted by gardenergirl on March 19, 2005, at 18:43:39
gg, can you email me the stuff about stages of change? that sounds very interesting to me.
Thanks!
LG04
Posted by gardenergirl on March 20, 2005, at 22:31:28
In reply to Re: How are you today? » gardenergirl, posted by LG04 on March 20, 2005, at 13:12:54
I'd be glad to. Can you turn your babblemail on or give me your email address please?
gg
Posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 0:55:16
In reply to Re: How are you today?, posted by gardenergirl on March 20, 2005, at 22:31:28
i don't know what babblemail is. how do i turn it on?
Posted by gardenergirl on March 21, 2005, at 1:56:07
In reply to Re: How are you today? » gardenergirl, posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 0:55:16
Hi LG04,
Go to Registration and choose Update your Registration.
There is a place for Babblemail selection where you can select yes or no. Select yes.
Finish updating your registration. You do not have to change anything else.
When you go back to the boards, you should see that your screen name is now in blue and can be clicked on to open up the Babblemail window..
If you have any problems, please let me know.gg
Posted by shrinking violet on March 21, 2005, at 21:09:03
In reply to Re: How are you today? » shrinking violet, posted by gardenergirl on March 19, 2005, at 18:43:39
Wow, GG, thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I appreciate it, and value your input.
>> I'm thinking back to much earlier posts when you two were getting on well. So well, in fact, that it seemed as if you two were going to wind up friends. I know at the time I was concerned about your T's boundaries at the time. I was concerned that she was too emotionally attached to you and she was letting it show to you too much. I wondered about the quality of the supervision she was getting. Please correct me if my memory of your earlier experience with her is not accurate. Because my perception now is colored by that.--No, you're right on. I think my T and I have always had a sort of dual relationship: the therapy, which never went well in my opinion, and which was/is the cause of many of our tribulations, and the other part where, as you said, she was perhaps too attached or invested and letting it become evident in her treatment of me. I think, to her, it was one in the same: I think she views our relationship as part of the therapy, and showing me caring and nurturing (neither of which I have gotten much of from anyone else) would be helpful and healing. In fact, though, it just confused me more, because given that she is my T and I a client, I was always unsure of my boundaries with her (seemingly having almost none but still not wanting to cross any lines out of respect). She would say and do things that I wasn't sure a T should do, necessarily, and then I think I began to resent her for it. Now, I don't trust her as a T at all, and I'm hurt personally because I feel like she underestimated her power and left me vulnerable and hurt because I have grown to care for her deeply, and still rather confused.
Also, she tells me she does "confer" quite a bit with other clinicians, both in her office and personal friends of hers, and she has paid for consultations on at least one occasion that I know of (maybe two, I can't remember). I was never present for any of these consults, and she's never told me much detail about them other than that they all seem to encourage and support her. Again, I have no way of knowing how much she's actually telling them, either, in terms of her conduct with me, etc. And, knowing her as I do, and hearing this from her myself, I know she has probably told these other therapist's that she feels she's failed me, etc, so of course, being her friends, they want to make her feel better and encourage her, so I'm not sure how truthful they would be with her anyway, even if they did think something was amiss.
>> I think that what should be really happening is that your t should be working through this with you, helping you to undertand this pattern. Instead, she's feeding it in a way. She's giving you ultimatums, such as well, come back when you are ready to talk to me, and well, it's me or the boss, which I'm sure is oh so appealing to you. It's kind of like saying "you're in trouble, missy." At least that is how it sounds to me. I'm thinking of my own T, who responded to my no-showing about a month ago by gently asking me why I might be angry with him. It was very non-threatening. It was an invitation to explore it with him, versus a challenge or a pout kind of thing. That's what I wish I was seeing from your T.--Thank you for that. My T is often very "motherly" with me, and she often takes my reactions VERY personally, and she'll turn them back on me so that I feel badly for my reaction to her. So of course I don't want to show or share anything with her, for fear of how she'll react to it. And now, it has extended to my being afraid of her reactions and afraid she will say or do something to hurt me. The hardest thing about all this is, I think, that I know she means well. I know she would never ever want to purposely hurt me or anyone, and I'd hate to walk away from this experience with her and having her think that she's harmed me in some way. I'd hate for her to think of me as the client who shook her confidence and shattered her ego (and I think that's partly why she's turning it back on me, saying that I want her to feel like she failed.....because maybe she wants ME to feel like I failed so that *she* won't have to face the fact that yeah, oops, maybe she really screwed up).
> She may be quite frustrated at what she perceives as your lack of movement. I wonder if you two are on the same page as to what the goal of therapy is? I mean really and truly. I am thinking of another client I had with anorexia who really was ambivalent about change. She could say all the right things, but her body language and her behaviors suggested that she really wasn't ready to actively fight this. So what we really needed to work on was the ambivalence first. No sense us working on strategies for changing eating behaviors if she was not committed to them. First we needed to get the committment. I dont' know if that relates to your situation at all, but where someone is on the continuum of stages of change is really important. And if the T and the client are working from different stages, it's not at all effective, and leads to much frustration.--Well, she says I have made progress and movement......she never specifically says how, though. As for our "goals," we've tried to discuss them at various points during the treatment, but as time went on I couldn't come up with many. I hated therapy but I wanted to keep seeing her, and any little thing I tossed at her she would grab at.....for example, I told her a few months ago I wanted to work on my opening up to her more. She accepted that as a goal....Now, given I have a myriad of issues such as anorexia, depression, post traumatic stress, etc, I'm surprised she didn't press me for anything more. So maybe she wanted to keep seeing me too, and using the therapy as an excuse? (ok maybe that's far fetched....). I've tried to quit numerous times....she's always called to get me back. I'm not clear why. It seems silly to have therapy goals now, anyway, since I only have a couple of months left with her anyway.
I think we did go through the stages of change at the beginning.....if it's the same thing you're speaking of. Although this was in a chapter related to eating disorders in a workbook, so perhaps it was a different thing. I do remember her saying I was at the first stage....that was almost 2 years ago and I don't think I've moved from that stage yet, which is another obstacle I'm sure.
>> I can imagine that is an awful feeling. I hope you are sharing that with her as well. Because you two are supposed to be partners on this journey. So it's not either one's fault completely. Whatever has happened, it's happened to and from both of you. Is there any chance you could get a consult from another clinician at the site or from her supervisor? It may help you two sort this out in time for some resolution before your time is up.---She's said that to me too, how it feels like we're on opposite sides and we keep 'missing' each other, and if I could bring her over to my side (or go over to hers) then it would be easier and a lot better for both of us. She never told me HOW to do that, though, and I've never figured it out. I doubt getting a consult with her at this point would accomplish anything, since my time with her is coming to an end. I just want it to be a decent ending and not a total dismantling of the past 2 years. And I wrote above she has had consults on her own.
Thank you again GG. I hope she and I can fix this too.....I'm still waiting to hear from her after sending her the email last week...... *scared*Take care,
SV
Posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 21:34:16
In reply to Babblemail, posted by gardenergirl on March 21, 2005, at 1:56:07
Hi gg,
i am too emotionally exhausted to turn on babblemail. it sounds incredibly easy but every tiny thing is too exhausting for me right now. can you send it to my email?thanks so much,
LG
Posted by shrinking violet on March 23, 2005, at 9:18:44
In reply to Re: Babblemail » gardenergirl, posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 21:34:16
I'm sorry to keep taking up space here, and prolonging this thread....I'm just at a loss as to what to do.
I haven't heard from my T at all....it's been about five days since I sent her that email. I know she probably needs time to "process" it all and figure out what to do, if anything, and I'm trying to give her that, but...shouldn't I have heard *something* by now? I'm so afraid I'll just end up receiving a form letter in the mail, telling me she can't see me anymore. I've already decided not to read anything she might send that way....I couldn't chance being devastated, and then not being able to respond to it on top of it all.
At this point, maybe the kindest thing for me to do would be to email her one last time, and resign as her client? Obviously she's having a hard time with this whole thing as well, and if she knew what to do and was glad that I explained myself, she would have gotten back to me by now, I think.
Maybe I'll wait until the end of the week, and then if I don't hear from her, I'll tell her not to waste any more time on me.
If anyone has any thoughts or ideas I'd love to hear them....I'm so lost right now. I didn't want it to end this way.... :-(
SV
Posted by gardenergirl on March 23, 2005, at 11:10:40
In reply to Re: Babblemail » gardenergirl, posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 21:34:16
Hi LG,
I haven't forgotten you. I'm just having a hard time finding the electronic version of what I am talking about. But I'll find it.gg
Posted by shrinking violet on March 23, 2005, at 16:34:04
In reply to :-( haven't heard from her.....should I resign???, posted by shrinking violet on March 23, 2005, at 9:18:44
I've been sobbing for over an hour.....I'm not sure what brought it on, but I started thinking of my T all of a sudden, and all of the possible reasons why I haven't heard from her and, well, it snowballed from there.
What if I never see/speak to her again? What if I've managed, yet again, to mess up one of the few close relationships I've had with people? Why do I drive everyone away? Why am I "too much?" Why do I always seem to make things worse, the more I try to make them better?
And I'm so so so so sorry.....I wish you could hear and see me right now, my T, I'm so so SO SORRY......
Posted by annierose on March 23, 2005, at 17:26:36
In reply to so much pain, posted by shrinking violet on March 23, 2005, at 16:34:04
SV - I can almost feel the depth of your unhappiness right now. I don't know why she has not repied. That does seem unusual. Can you leave her a message that you really need to talk to her? I think if she knows you are waiting to hear from her, she'll call?
Please take care of yourself. I can imagine how much you hurt.
Posted by Susan47 on March 23, 2005, at 19:48:32
In reply to so much pain, posted by shrinking violet on March 23, 2005, at 16:34:04
I hurt for you, sv (((Shrinking violet))) But I don't think it's as bad as you think, really, she's probably weighing things, maybe waiting for another letter, for a clearer direction maybe of where to go? I'm just shooting in the dark, thinking it must be hard sometimes for a T to know what to do.
Posted by shrinking violet on March 24, 2005, at 19:19:34
In reply to Re: so much pain, posted by annierose on March 23, 2005, at 17:26:36
Thank you for your thoughts, Annierose and Susan. Since you both responded in a similar way, I thought I'd group my response to both of you here. I hope that's all right.
I do feel sort of silly now, at my reaction, but still scared underneath it all. I saw my nutritionist today, who works on campus with my T and they know each other very well. I sobbed in her office. She asked me what happened. Since they know each other, I was somewhat reluctant telling my N about what happened with my T, but I gave her a short version. My N asked if I had another appt with my T. I said no. She asked why not. I told her my T probably doesn't want to see me, b/c I haven't heard from her. My N said, didn't my T have an issue with my sending emails like the one I sent, preferring to talk about stuff in session (true, although my T would repeatedly give and take away the email priveleges...I think she was torn since it is the only way I allow myself to communicate with her). She said I should call and make an appt to see my T. I told my N that my T probably wouldn't want to see me, that she probably hates me by now. My N spent a number of minutes trying to reassure me, telling me that my T cares about me very deeply, even if I may do or say something to upset her it doesn't mean she hates me, and she's probably waiting for me to see her (and my N tried to convince me that she doesn't hate me either). My N said I should try to stop assuming I know what others are thinking and wanting.
But then I think, how does SHE know my T DOES want to see me? So, I don't know.....but maybe she's right? Maybe my T doesn't want to get into a whole email back and forth thing. And I wouldn't blame her, but.....I would have expected *something* from her given all I revealed to her last week in that email. Even a one-line note asking me to come in to talk about it. So, I'm not sure what to do. Maybe my T doesn't know what to do either....?
So, I think if I don't hear from her tomorrow (chances are I won't), I may call the center on Monday and reschedule for next Friday, and tell the secretary to tell my T to let me know if there's a problem with that. My T doesn't work on Mondays so I won't have to worry about being transferred to her on the phone or anything. I guess that's the best thing to do, right? And then she'll let me know if she doesn't want to see me? Hm, and to think, before I saw my N today I was prepared to resign from my T on Monday......
....Oh, life is grand. :-/
Thanks everyone. I appreciate the support here, and I apologize for all the "drama."
SV
Posted by Dinah on March 24, 2005, at 19:41:00
In reply to Re: annierose, Susan47, posted by shrinking violet on March 24, 2005, at 19:19:34
I'm glad you're planning to give it another shot. Too much can happen to an email to center an entire relationship decision on it.
Posted by annierose on March 24, 2005, at 20:51:16
In reply to Re: annierose, Susan47 » shrinking violet, posted by Dinah on March 24, 2005, at 19:41:00
Since you are so uncomfortable, why not call her tomorrow and schedule another appointment sooner if possible? This is upsetting you. I think she does want you to be responsible for your therapy.
Since she has some sort of secretary (mine doesn't) you don't have to talk to her directly. Leave a message you would like to schedule an appt asap. Please?
-Annierose
Posted by shrinking violet on March 26, 2005, at 20:27:04
In reply to Re: SV, posted by annierose on March 24, 2005, at 20:51:16
It seems my brain has a mind of its own, which is never a good thing. I'll conclude something, then that something will spiral and branch out into other conclusions, and I of course am convinced there could be no other plausible option, and then I find out I overreacted and, well, then I end up feeling like I do now (like a big idiot).
My T emailed me yesterday afternoon. She said she waited at our scheduled time, hoping to see me, but I never showed, and to please call to confirm our time for next week.
I'm dumbfounded, b/c when I left during the previous session, we left it open-ended and I didn't have an appointment scheduled. So, I'm not sure if it was a misunderstanding, or if my nutritionist told my T how upset I was, so my T sent a rather nonchalant email so I'd know she wants to see me, at least.
Of course, now the hard part is actually going to the session(s). Yes, I'm relieved that she still wants to see me after all I wrote to her, but, I'm scared as all heck of her reaction and what she'll say, (not to mention beyond mortified at all I have revealed to her, especially regarding our relationship) and I'm afraid just seeing her will get me upset and then I'll be a wreck all over again. Besides, if I see her, I do so with the knowledge that I only have a handful of sessions left, and each week comes closer to that last one. If I don't go, don't see her, I can avoid the whole final session thing and the lead-ups to that....But I don't want to miss out on some time with her that could be special, either.
Anyway, thank you all for your support. I'll be posting soon for ideas for a final goodbye gift. :-(
Take care everyone,
SV
> Since you are so uncomfortable, why not call her tomorrow and schedule another appointment sooner if possible? This is upsetting you. I think she does want you to be responsible for your therapy.
> Since she has some sort of secretary (mine doesn't) you don't have to talk to her directly. Leave a message you would like to schedule an appt asap. Please?
> -Annierose
Posted by LadyBug on April 4, 2005, at 0:48:20
In reply to mountains out of molehills » annierose, posted by shrinking violet on March 26, 2005, at 20:27:04
Wow have I ever been in your shoes!!! I hate it sometimes. I've been there quite a few times actually. I've been with my T for over 8 years. Many times I have left her office telling myself I'll NEVER return, it hurts too much. I just got through one of my episodes like that. (all because she wouldn't tell me when her birthday is) I'm holding my breath. We have worked things out but it is so dang hard.
I hope you let us know how things turn out. I hope well. I wish I could e-mail my T, but she thinks that is invading her privacy......not to me. That is no different that leaving her a voice mail, it's just that your writing your message and sending it electronically!!!!!
I wish you the best here. I can relate to everything you have posted. I've so been there!!!! It is such a merry-go-round sometimes!! I want to get off sometimes and get a life!!LadyBug
Posted by Susan47 on April 4, 2005, at 9:22:40
In reply to Re: mountains out of molehills, posted by LadyBug on April 4, 2005, at 0:48:20
Maybe your t feels it's "invading her privacy" because she cares and then she would be thinking about you when she really doesn't want to be, like on her time off or whatever... but still, a t should have the sense to regulate herself and still be able to provide for her clients so she isn't hurting their feelings.
Posted by LadyBug on April 4, 2005, at 9:33:54
In reply to Re: mountains out of molehills, posted by Susan47 on April 4, 2005, at 9:22:40
Susan
I've never thought about e-mail and making her think of me when she doen't want to but that makes sense to me. She would be at home I'm sure of it. She doesn't have her personal computer in her office, it is in the office managers office. Thanks for pointing that out. I am going to talk to her about e-mail this week as I see so many patients are allowed to sent them. She does let me send her journal pages, snail mail....if she's out of town or something and wants to stay connected. That has helped me a lot when she's gone.LadyBug
Posted by Susan47 on April 4, 2005, at 11:33:33
In reply to Re: mountains out of molehillsSusan, posted by LadyBug on April 4, 2005, at 9:33:54
Yes, writing helps a great deal. I had to write, maybe I still have to, I don't know, but I had to write to my ex-T for a long time in order to feel some measure of safety in the world. I needed to not feel so terribly alone. It helped immensely and I'm happy your therapist allows you to do that. It's terrible though, that we have to feel like we're such a burden, and anything they do to reinforce that feeling is like a kiss of death.
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