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Posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 17:49:08
I used to wear oranges and reds before I quit therapy (or he quit me). I'm back to black and white, black and white.
Posted by JenStar on August 25, 2004, at 18:30:26
In reply to I know colors mean something, posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 17:49:08
hi Susan,
should we start calling you Zebra? (No, just kidding. I'm trying to make you laugh. Ihope it worked!)What if you tried wearing an orange thing tomorrow and see if that lifts your mood?
They say (the ever present "THEY") that people who make attempts to smile more can actually increase serotonin activity, and people who strive to change their handwriting often see corresponding changes in personality. I don't know how accurate that is, but it sounds nice!
Maybe dressing up pretty and bright will help brighten your mood...or at least get you on the path to enbrightenment.
I need to lose weight. I went out and bought a new pair of pants & a cute shirt yesterday. I was excited about this; I'd been "punishing" myself and wearing old clothes and saying I would not buy anything nice until I was thin. Then I decided, "heck, I want to look cute now!" Today I've been pretty decent -- ate grapes instead of Doritos.
So it sort of helps me on a small level.
PS - for an extra fun look, how about wearing ALL of your orange and red clothes without regard for matching or style? Think about the stares you'd get!
Posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 19:42:08
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something » Susan47, posted by JenStar on August 25, 2004, at 18:30:26
No no no no no I can't wear orange! It's too obvious. I need to hide. I would wear brown but I intensely dislike brown, it's not really a colour to me. But my eyes are brown..go figure.
Posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 19:43:26
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something » Susan47, posted by JenStar on August 25, 2004, at 18:30:26
Black and white aren't colours either. I dislike gray even more than I dislike brown, actually, maybe brown isn't so bad. It's just blah on me. I just want to stick to black and white black and white. I really don't like that.
Posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 19:46:22
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something » Susan47, posted by JenStar on August 25, 2004, at 18:30:26
I'm glad you bought something new to wear to enjoy now. Every day matters; did you wear your new clothes today?
Posted by partlycloudy on August 26, 2004, at 7:00:42
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something, posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 19:43:26
The colours of my clothing are a true indication of how I'm feeling on a particular day. Black and white are for decisive days. Pink is for a bubbly-happy day. Greens are for serenity. Brown makes me feel invisible. Beige, or taupe make me feel peaceful. Red and orange I wear rarely, if only because I don't often feel bold enough for them. For me, blue is my neutral colour, neither here nor there.
You can imagine that it takes me a long time to get dressed in the morning... and on the weekends I change clothes frequently!
Posted by Susan47 on August 26, 2004, at 9:30:39
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something » Susan47, posted by partlycloudy on August 26, 2004, at 7:00:42
I know what you mean partlycloudy, I change clothes frequently as well, on weekends. I need to go clothes shopping. I need more colours between red and black.
Posted by Susan47 on August 26, 2004, at 20:18:06
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something, posted by Susan47 on August 26, 2004, at 9:30:39
All black today, big hat, sunglasses. Losing stuff and wandering around.
Posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 26, 2004, at 22:22:54
In reply to I know colors mean something, posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 17:49:08
I would interpret that the oranges and reds mean ready for a change. Now, I am not necessarilary meaning you. pardom my spelling not in good way at the moment. Think of red. Wow, I think of stop, death, sexy for a few words here. You may be like what the heck is she saying. A woman walking in a room with red on vs a woman with black on is screaming out something. It may even be anger - rage depending on the tone here. Like - I have had it. They say a man feels much more safe when his wife wears pink than red. All you have to do to make pink is add white to red. Red can be threatening. Red is also a power color.
Black and white can be many things too. It can be just business, conforming, balanced, deceiving, but it too is a dramatic look. This combination to me is also a power color theme. Why do I say it is deceiving? Because some women use the black to hide things or make them smaller and use the white to make things appear larger than they really are. In other words, they are hiding the true shape of their body to others. Some may do the opposite and where the white to make their big parts appear even larger and the smaller parts even smaller. This is to repel others and hide their sexuality. So, only you know the real reason why you chose these colors for others to see.
In both situations, you are sending some big messages? Were you angered with the last T wanted a change, so you chose the red colors? Now, you are with a new T and still feeling them out, so you are hiding in the shadows just a bit for good measure? I have a feeling these colors will change in time. It's my gut that as you work thru trust, you will come out of the black and white.
What do I know? I am just a shadow player;)
Posted by Susan47 on August 27, 2004, at 8:43:59
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something, posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 26, 2004, at 22:22:54
Well, shadowplayer, you know a lot. But I'm not seeing a new t at all at all so that's out. Yesterday I wore all black; maybe I was trying to disappear.
I can't see wearing red or orange right now, they're hopeful colours to me. They scream out, "Look at me, I like myself". Which I think underneath it all, I do, or am learning to. It's best not to talk too much. I'm going to go read something.
Posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 27, 2004, at 12:07:53
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something, posted by Susan47 on August 27, 2004, at 8:43:59
Sounds like you know yourself very well, Susan. That's awesome.
Posted by shortelise on August 27, 2004, at 13:25:04
In reply to I know colors mean something, posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 17:49:08
I am now wearing lots of yellow-gold. My T had a shirt that was this colour, and I loved it. It made me think of sunflowers, of sun, of warmth - it summed up for me how I feel about him sometimes.
I love "fall" colours, they suit me, and in the past ten years I have collected a nice assortment of golds, greens, browns, oranges.I wonder when I wear black and white to therapy if it means something. But mostly I wear what is clean when I get dressed in the morning.
I agree about the smiling thing. I try to smile all the time when I am in public as I get so much warmth from other people if I do so, and I appreciate that warmth so much. It helps me cope with the mean people.
Susan, I really feel for you. I don't know what else to say about that, just that I know you are struggling, and that it's hard.
ShortE
Posted by shortelise on August 27, 2004, at 13:31:00
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something » Susan47, posted by JenStar on August 25, 2004, at 18:30:26
Jenstar, since I was very young, I'd made "I" as the top half of a question mark. ? without the period underneath.
A few years into therapy, I changed it to a straight line, more the top half of an explanation mark. !I told my psychiatrist, and he didn't commented, but I knew and know that it meant a change in my sense of myself. But I'd never heard what you wrote about changing one's handwriting. Very cool.
ShortE
Posted by gardenergirl on August 27, 2004, at 18:26:42
In reply to I get it!, posted by shortelise on August 27, 2004, at 13:25:04
> But mostly I wear what is clean when I get dressed in the morning.
Me too...and what still fits!
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> I agree about the smiling thing. I try to smile all the time when I am in public as I get so much warmth from other people if I do so, and I appreciate that warmth so much. It helps me cope with the mean people.I so agree, and do this too. It still amazes and delights me when you are buying something and the clerk is just flat, and then you smile as you say goodbye or whatever, and they smile back finally! I love it. It's contagious.
Take care,
gg
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> Susan, I really feel for you. I don't know what else to say about that, just that I know you are struggling, and that it's hard.
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> ShortE
Posted by terrics on August 30, 2004, at 10:30:51
In reply to I know colors mean something, posted by Susan47 on August 25, 2004, at 17:49:08
could you try a tiny bit of color with your black and white? maybe a pin or red or blue or whatever color necklace. maybe a belt? think of it as the beginning. terrics
Posted by Susan47 on August 30, 2004, at 23:25:44
In reply to Re: I know colors mean something » Susan47, posted by terrics on August 30, 2004, at 10:30:51
Thanks terrics, those are good suggestions but I probably won't take them because I think I like feeling sorry for myself and this is a way to express that. I'm thinking that one over.
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