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Posted by All Done on May 15, 2004, at 9:32:46
Hi, everyone.
My husband is out of town this weekend and I had to do a lot of juggling of my schedule and send my son to grandma and grandpa's in order to leave my usual time slot open for therapy. Well, three hours before my appointment, my T left me a message cancelling because the center had some flooding and it isn't safe for people to be there. So, I won't see him for another week.
I'm really disappointed and I hate the disproportion of my feelings with anything therapy related.
Any suggestions for keeping me away from the deep end this week?
Thanks a million,
All Done
Posted by gardenergirl on May 15, 2004, at 9:58:02
In reply to Darn it!, posted by All Done on May 15, 2004, at 9:32:46
Well poopy. That is no fun. All that effort, and a darn flood. I'm sorry, All Done. Are you in the middle of something important in therapy? I admit I am not skilled in channeling others' T's the way KK is. Or was it Daisy? I forget.
Would it help to have a conversation with yourself as if you were in therapy? I know I have been waking up thinking about therapy stuff, and what I would say if I were in session in that moment. Do you journal?
Or perhaps go completely the other way. A therapy vacation...what do you like to do on vacation? Read a good book? Take a nice hot bath, with bubbles? Go to a movie, do some shopping, see a play? Chat with the girls (and guys).
Let us know what you need. We're here.
gg
Posted by finelinebob on May 15, 2004, at 10:45:57
In reply to Re: Darn it!, posted by gardenergirl on May 15, 2004, at 9:58:02
I agree with gg -- definitely vacation time! Treat yourself special for a day!
flb
Posted by ghost on May 15, 2004, at 11:17:05
In reply to Darn it!, posted by All Done on May 15, 2004, at 9:32:46
Posted by karen_kay on May 15, 2004, at 14:16:05
In reply to Darn it!, posted by All Done on May 15, 2004, at 9:32:46
call your friends and talk instead, anytime you need to dear. sometimes, i think, friends help in situations when therapists are unavialable. and sometimes, i've found, they prove to be more useful as well :)
darn him for cancelling on you! want me to send some negative energy his way, jsut to teach him a lesson. i must admit though, i shouldn't have kept him up so late last night :( (sorry dear, i have to take the cheap shots you know!)
Posted by DaisyM on May 15, 2004, at 17:53:06
In reply to Darn it!, posted by All Done on May 15, 2004, at 9:32:46
I think this calls for new shoes!
I would be disappointed too. So much juggling...I hope you did something nice for yourself with the open time. In many ways it is a luxury you never get...found time.
Posted by spoc on May 16, 2004, at 5:39:09
In reply to Re: Darn it!, posted by DaisyM on May 15, 2004, at 17:53:06
Sorry to hear that, All Done. I wonder if in such a situation a T could offer a phone session. I don't suppose many would be willing to meet a client at the nearest coffee shop or library or something! Anyway, hope the stress has dissipated now! Happy Sunday! :- )
Posted by pegasus on May 16, 2004, at 14:39:51
In reply to Re: Darn it!, posted by spoc on May 16, 2004, at 5:39:09
Oh, I agree with spoc. See if you can do a session over the phone. I've done it a couple of times when I've had the flu and once during a big snowstorm that immobilized the city and my T and I were both stuck at home. My Ts were always willing, since the option was no therapy and me getting very upset and our next session not being as productive. It's not as good as being there in person, but it's better than no therapy at all IMHO.
pegasus
Posted by All Done on May 16, 2004, at 19:44:28
In reply to Darn it!, posted by All Done on May 15, 2004, at 9:32:46
Thanks for all of the great suggestions! Seems like the general consensus is that some pampering is in order, huh? That I can handle :).
During the actual hour of my session, I ended up taking a nap. Sounds silly but quite a luxury for a toddler’s mommy. Then, a wonderful friend of mine called later in the afternoon. KK, the one thing nicer than talking to a good friend when you call is having them “know” that you need to talk and calling you first.
To answer some of your questions, he didn't offer a phone session, which I found a bit odd. I mean, if it was a problem with the building and not his own reason for canceling, why wasn't he free to do that during our normal time? But, I just let it go because I'm not 100% comfortable with phone sessions. I've had them when I really "needed" to, but I think this might have felt a little awkward for me. I have been having some difficult sessions but nothing “urgent”, I guess.
I do journal some and that really helped me through his last vacation that coincided with mine. I didn't see him for almost a month. I got pretty desperate and that's when I found Babble. What a positive thing that came from that!
As for the pampering, I just spent a bit of money at the salon on Friday, but perhaps I can find a bit more for at least a pedicure this week. Summer is quickly approaching after all. (Hmm, Daisy, new pair of sandals...)
I pretty regularly chat with my T in my head. I've never actually made a point to try to have a conversation, though. I might end up trying too hard to figure out what he would say and that usually gets me in trouble.
Basically, I've been trying to distract myself which has been working pretty well. I'm a little nervous about the work week though. Sometimes I find that I get frustrated there and everything seems worse than it is. I'm hoping for a quiet week.
Thanks again, everyone! It’s nice to know you’re here to help me get through this week (and every other week, for that matter ;).)
Take care,
All Done
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